Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, brothers and sisters,
After all those months of hard work, trials and tribulations, finally., Alhamdulillah, by the uncountable Graces and infinite blessings of Allah upon us, I am now married to my darling wife, Dewi Abdul Rahim Mokti!
The eventful night of the Nikah ceremony on the Friday, 23rd November 2009 signified the beginning of a long and meaningful (insya Allah) life ahead for the both of us, as we departed from the life of bachelorhood into the blessed life of Marriage Life!
Yahoo!!
As I briefly alluded to in my previous post, marriage is an institution which is highly regarded in Islam. So much so that the Prophet (saw) said: "When a servant (of Allah) marries, he has (by that) completed half of his deen (religion & way of life). Let him then fear and revere Allah in regard to the other half" (At-Tabarani, verified to be hasan by Al-Albani)
And if we ponder at the fact that 'deen' is defined as a 'way of life', this hadith indicates that marriage is a means of fulfilling half of a person's life. And why is it not? When one can finally have a partner who you can hold, who can comfort you when you're feeling low, who will be the coolness of your eyes in times of distress? "And among His signs is that He created for you, from yourselves, spouses (wives), that you may dwell (in joy and security) unto them, and He set between you love and mercy; surely in that, are signs for those who reflect" (Ar-Rum 30:21).
Allah beautifully and eloquently captures the wonders of marriage by this short Verse of the Qur'an: "They (your spouses) are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them" (Al-Baqarah 2:187). SubhanAllah! What a beautiful way of describing the bond between a husband and a wife- A garment for each other! Imagine.. the garment is the closest thing to our body. A garment protects us... a garment shields our private parts from the eyes of others... a garmen provides us with comfort. A garment can sometimes even define our personalities!
With this halal methodology of intimacy, marriage also provides the means to guard a person's chastity and his honour. The Prophet (SAW) said in a hadith recorded in Bukhari & Muslim, "O young men! Those among you who can afford marriage, do so! For it helps lower the gaze and guard the private parts (from illegal sexual acts)".
It is unfortunate in the society today that many people no longer see the value of decency, honour and dignity in preserving one's chastity. The modern culture of intermingling has led to many corrupted beliefs, so much so that the Halal is made difficult, and the Haram is made easy. People resort to premarital sex, out of fear of responsibility, or out of fear of poverty or not being able to afford marriage.
Why i'm saying all this, brothers and sisters, is simple: just go get married. Practice your religion the way you should, in accordance to the uncreated Word of God (the Qur'an) and the beautiful teachings of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (the Sunnah), and you will find that marriage is indeed one of the greatest blessings of happiness in life of this world. The Prophet (saw) said, "this life is a temporary enjoyment, and the best of its enjoyments is a righteous wife" (Muslim, Ahmad, An-Nasa'i)
I know I made the right decision, insya Allah. I pray to Allah that this is the beautiful beginning of many great things to come.
Oh, and by the way, I love my wife very very much =)
