Assalamualaikum warahmatuLlah wabarakatuh
Bismillah, was Solat was-Salam 'ala Rasulillah
Alhamdulillah, by the uncountable Graces of Allah, am now approaching the final couple hours of my bachelorhood. Zero Hour is nigh!
It's a mixed feeling of intense anxiety, excitement, nervousness and... worry
Marriage is an important institution in the life of a Muslim. It is regarded as a highly recommended Sunnah, or in most cases, an obligation upon us. So much so that the Prophet (pbuh) said that "whenever a servant (of Allah) marries, he has (by that) completed half of his religion. Let him then fear and revere Allah in regard to the other half" (At-Tabarani, hasan). Putting things into perspective, when Allah says "And I created not the jinn and mankind (for any) other (purpose) than to worship Me" (Ad-Dzariyat), marriage is regarded as fulfilling half your purpose in your life!!
Provided, of course, if we take it seriously.
Take it seriously? Of course we take it seriously, Faisal!
Not only is this an act of worship, this allowance of us to love each other is in fact one of the uncountable Mercies that He has bestowed upon mankind: "And among His signs, is that He created for you, from yourselves, wives (spouses) that you may dwell (in joy and security) unto them, and He set betwen you love and mercy. Surely, in that are signs for those who reflect" (Ar-Rum 30:21). When we put this into perspective, marriage is, in fact, an act of Worship which is prescribed to us by God Almighty. And just like other acts of worship - e.g. prayer, fasting, and pilgrimage, obviously, Allah has preordained for us a set of rules which we need to abide by, for these deeds to be accepted.
And of course, by the Mercy of ALlah, he sent down to us, the person that will guide us to this Truth, the final Messenger, Muhammad (pbuh). "It is He who has sent among the unlettered, a Messenger from themselves, reciting to them His ayat (Quran verses), purifying them, and teaching them the Book and Wisdom - although they previously were in clear deviation" (Al-Jumu'ah 62:2). And so comprehensive are the teachings of this Messenger, that he has described to us every minute detail on how we want a perfect marriage.
And this perfect Guide is the Sunnah of the Prophet. We always take this term for granted, but do we ever think about the testimony of Imam Malik (ra) who said that "The sunnah of the Prophet is like the Ark of Noah - whoever is in it is saved, and whoever does not ride it, will drown".
So we ask the help of Allah to grant us the strength and the ability to be able to have the Marriage ceremony and reception in accordance to the Sunnah of the Prophet, in the way that pleases Him most. May He grant us the greatest treasure of the world, as described by The Prophet : "a heart grateful (to Allah), a tongue extolling (Allah), and a righteous wife who would assist you in the affairs of your life and religion - these are the best treasures for the people" (Al-Bayhaqi, At-Tirmidzi, verified authentic by Al-Albani)
Wish me all the best, brothers and sisters, that we may begin this institution of marriage on the Right Path, and stay on it. We need your du'aa!
BarakAllahu feekum , and i love you all for the sake of Allah
