Fear holds you back from giving graciously, from standing up for the truth, from doing what’s right. Fear is the whisper of shaytan that weakens the ummah. Returning the honor of Muslims begins with us taking the first steps to flee from cowardice and miserliness
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Talk Outline / "Road Map"
1. Introduction
1.1 Reminder #1 – Normal to Have Them. Focus is fixing / rectifying them.
1.2 Reminder #2 – The “End Goal”
1.3 Reminder #3 – Develop a Growth Mindset à Believe in Yourself that you CAN get rid of any negative internal characteristics
2. Cowardice الجبن
2.1 Definition
2.2 The Opposite: Shaja’ah (Bravery / Courage)
2.3 The reality of “Fear”: Fear is Natural. Your REACTION determines your courage
2.4 “Fear” vs Cowardice
Case Study #1: Even Prophet Musa felt fear !
Case Study #2 : Battle of Al-Khandaq (Al-Ahzab)
2.5 True Definition of Courage
2.6 Overcoming Fear: Developing Courage
#1 Make Du’aa
#2 Have Confidence in the Help of Allah
#3 Develop a Sense of Urgency
#4 Community Support
2.7 Example: Fear of Public Speaking?
2.8 Conclusion on Bravery
3 Miserliness / Stinginess – االبخل
3.1 Our Current State: The Scarcity Mindset
3.2 Abundance Mindset: Knowing Your Blessings are From Allah
#1 You will remain humble
#2 Gratitude to the source of your favors
#3 You will have compassion towards other slaves to Allah
#4 You have THAT much HOPE for Better Things to Come
#5 OPTIMISM: Tawakkul in the Wisdom of Allah
#6. Taking Accountability: as an "Amanah" (A trust)
3.3 True Generosity
3.4 Developing Generosity
#1 Investment mindset
#2 Develop a sense of urgency
#3 Prioritize your resources
#4 Start with consistent, small acts of kindness
4. Mark of the Muslims– the Big Picture
5. Closing: Remember Who You Are
بِسْمِ اللَّـهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ
This series of talks are based on the du’aa seeking refuge
in Allah. One of the more famous and well-known narrations goes:
اللَّهُمَّ
إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ،
وَالْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ، وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ
Narrated Anas bin Malik: The Prophet (ﷺ) used to say, "O Allah! I seek refuge with You from worry
and grief, from incapacity and laziness, from cowardice and miserliness, from
being heavily in debt and from being overpowered by (other) men."
(Narrated
by Al-Bukhari)
This du’aa emphasizes seeking refuge from negative
characteristics, which prevent us or hold us back from progress or fully
actualizing our potential and bringing out the best in ourselves, especially
with respect to worshipping Allah.
1.1 Reminder #1 – Normal to Have Them. Focus is fixing / rectifying them.
These negative characteristics we are seeking refuge in
Allah : many of which are internal characteristics within ourselves.
Question to you: out of these negative characteristics, how
many of you genuinely feel that you are inflicted or affected by any – or
perhaps a few – of these characteristics?
First step to rectify any problem is to recognize that you
have them in the first place!
Others are also facing same difficulties and challenges you
are. Extent of struggles may be different – some may be more difficult than
others – Point is : You are not alone or
unique in your struggles.
And sometimes that journey of self discovery alone – to have
the courage and integrity to admit our own faults – is half the battle. Now
that we genuinely feel we have these challenges, we can take the ownership and
hold ourselves accountable to fix them – not to blame others, not to be in
denial or defensive about it, but to have the resolve to rectify them.
1.2 Reminder #2 – The “End Goal”
The most important point: What is the “End Goal”? Why would
you want to be brave, generous, productive, humble and all the other themes
talked about throughout this conference in “Flee to Allah”?
What is the driver, enabler, motivation to overcome these
internal issues that we face?
It’s important for all of us to have this End Goal – so that
we can always have our unified direction where we are heading, provide the
motivation we need to sustain ourselves through the journey, trials and
tribulations.
This is why organizations today – even masjids – have Vision
and Mission Statement. In the organization I work, they call it a “Purpose
Statement”
So with that in mind, what is our Purpose Statement – our
End Goal – as Muslims?
Our purpose statement is the pillars of iman – and one can
phrase it many ways, but we will go with a very simple wording is re-emphasized
and repeats itself time and time again in the Qur’an and Sunnah: Believe in Allah
and the Last Day.
This is basically our personal identity.
This phrase sums up :
- Iman in Allah:
Related to tawheed: Your objective and goals in life. Who you belong to, Who is
the One you have your ultimate obligations to. Who are you. Who is the One who
granted you with all those blessings and tests. Who is the One you turn your
heart to in worship – to Whom do you put your trust (tawakkul), calling out and
asking Him (du’aa), to Whom do you fear in His punishment and hope in His
reward (khawf and raja).
- Iman in The Last Day:
Your true purpose and destination – that this life is only finite, only
temporary. We live short lives: And after that, is life in eternity. The true
judgment, true happiness, true suffering which will last forever and ever lies
herein: the Last Day, the hereafter.
And this is among the wisdoms why surah al-Fatihah – we
begin by reciting
الْحَمْدُ لِلَّـهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ ﴿٢﴾ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ ﴿٣﴾ مَالِكِ يَوْمِ الدِّينِ
"[All] praise is [due] to Allah, Lord of the worlds - (2) The Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful, (3) The Owner/The King of the Day of Recompense (the Day of Judgment)."
Just in these opening verses of surah Al-Fatihah, every day – seventeen times a day at minimum – we reinforce
our belief in Allah and the Last Day, we constantly reinforce our identity on
ourselves: our purpose, and destination.
This identity reinforces:
- Why you are here.
- Who – you are doing
this for: to seek the pleasure of Allah, to save YOURSELF on the Last Day
- Where is your
destination
- When – sense of
urgency of the end goal
- How you overcome
these: the solutions towards your true success
1.3 Reminder #3 – Develop a Growth Mindset à Believe in Yourself
that you CAN get rid of any negative internal characteristics
Never despair or have a defeatist mindset, and make
declarations such as:
1)
“I am born like this”
2)
“What to do, I’m simply not
the type who..”
3)
“I’m a failure when it
comes to..”
Stop it!
If you think like this, you have been defeated even
before you step into the battlefield.
When we have a fatalistic defeatist mindset and make
sweeping conclusions about ourselves, this will wash away any sense
accountability to change. We might even start blaming other external factors:
other people, our environment, na’udzubillah we begin to question Qadr of
Allah. And once shaytan has fooled you into that, you’ve lost: we will not take
the ownership to develop.
The key to this is to Develop a Growth Mindset. Believe in
Yourself that you CAN get rid of any negative internal characteristics. The
Prophet ﷺ said:
وَمَنْ يَتَصَبَّرْ يُصَبِّرْهُ اللَّهُ،
“Whomever tries to be patient, Allah will MAKE him patient”
(Narrated by Al-Bukhari)
Ibn Al-Qayyim commented on this hadith, stating:
“If a
person does not naturally possess characteristics of patience, it is possible
to attain this by acting as if he possesses it, until it
eventually becomes second nature. Controlling your gaze until it becomes second
nature. Same applies to all other desirable characteristics such as steadiness,
generosity and courage”
The basis of all positive characteristics, and of course the
opposite which is to remove negative characteristics – begins its foundations
in sabr
This hadith should instill us with the optimistic hopes that
we all have the capacity to change : if we TRY
So, always relate it back to what we said: Iman in Allah and
the Last Day: Allah is the source of strength to overcome these challenges, and
the purpose you want to overcome them is to reach the end goal of success on
the Last Day
2. Cowardice الجبن
With that being said, let us move to the very first negative
characteristic : “Al-Jubn” – which is typically translated into English as
“Cowardice”.
Ask yourself: when was the last time we prevented ourselves
from doing the right thing – but you held yourself because of fear?
Perhaps it could be :
- Speaking up to your boss or persons of authority when you see a clear violation, oppression, or breach of integrity?
- Having an appearance that is prescribed in the shari’ah and is pleasing to Allah – wearing a hijab, or keeping a beard – but you didn’t. You feared that you wouldn’t get a job offer, that you will not “look good” and “no one will want to marry you”, you fear that people will start mocking you and “judge” you now that you are going full on sheikh or ustadzah
- Instructing our children to perform solah or in covering their awrah – fear of them being “rebellious” or disliking us?
- Fear of sharing knowledge on social media or any other platforms – even though it’s as simple as clicking “forward” or “share” – simply because we didn’t want people to make fun of us as if we are some “holier-than-thou” kind of character?
2.1 Definition
This is al-jubn : cowardice.
Fears which are so intense,
that it prevents us and holds us back from doing the right thing – paralyzed by
fear
This is a direct opposite of “taqwa” when you refrain from
doing a sin. Taqwa: Because you fear the punishment of Allah, you prevent
yourself from doing something which displeases or disobeys him. Conversely,
cowardice “Al-Jubn” is when you fear these factors of the dunya, and you
prevent yourself from doing acts of obedience.
So in a sense, the characteristic of cowardice is in fact
fundamentally opposed to your purpose and characteristic as a believer in Allah
and the Last Day. And in that regard, taqwa and al-jubn are opposing forces
that continue to wrestle each other. The higher your iman, the higher your
tawakkal to fight al-jubn.
How can this impact the Ummah? This is an issue that impacts
every single one of us. Sometimes when it comes to do the “Right” thing, it’s
nothing to do with a lack of knowledge – it’s a lack of courage.
2.2 The Opposite: Shaja’ah (Bravery / Courage)
The opposite of al-jubn is shaja’ah – and this
is translated as courage. And we have been blessed with some of the greatest
examples of courageous and brave people in the history of our ummah. The best
of which is the Prophet ﷺ himself.
Anas bin Malik said:
عَنْ أَنَسٍ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ قَالَ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم
أَحْسَنَ النَّاسِ، وَأَجْوَدَ النَّاسِ، وَأَشْجَعَ النَّاسِ
The 'Prophet was the best, and most generous, and the
bravest of people.
(Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Battle of Hunayn : a field demonstration of the Prophet’s
bravery
قَالَ الْبَرَاءُ كُنَّا وَاللَّهِ إِذَا احْمَرَّ الْبَأْسُ نَتَّقِي بِهِ
وَإِنَّ الشُّجَاعَ مِنَّا لَلَّذِي يُحَاذِي بِهِ . يَعْنِي النَّبِيَّ صلى الله
عليه وسلم
Al-Bara' narrated: When the battle grew fierce. we, by Allah,
would seek protection by his side, and the bravest among us was he who
confronted the onslaught head-on (in the front lines), and it was the Prophet (ﷺ).
(Narrated by Al-Bukhari)
The Prophet was not raised as a warrior; he in fact, by profession he was a Shepard and business man. He wasn’t trained in arts of warfare, but when the
time came to rise to the occasion, to inspire courage amongst his followers –
he was in the front lines and the heat of battle.
But courage on the battlefield, that is something we can
imagine theoretically. But practically speaking, you and I, we are not on the
battlefield. There is a need to relate “courage” with more relatable, everyday
examples in our lives as Muslims. Because you CAN be courageous in your
workplace, at home and at public places and transportation.
To put it simply, Shaja’ah – courage – is to
- Be firm and steadfast in
the face of trials and tribulations, and does not back down when facing
resistance, confident in the help of Allah
- Take responsibility of our
actions, to take ownership of our situations, and think maturely before acting
That’s why the Prophet ﷺ
stated what is the GREATEST Jihad is simply a manifestation of bravery:
أَفْضَلُ الْجِهَادِ كَلِمَةُ عَدْلٍ
عِنْدَ سُلْطَانٍ جَائِرٍ
“The Greatest Jihad – is a word of Justice against an
oppressive ruler/tyrant”
(Narrated by Abu Daud, Ibnu Majah and At-Tirmidzi)
The greatest jihad has nothing to do with weaponry or any
physical fighting on the battlefield at all: Rather, the greatest jihad in the
sight of Allah is the courage to stand up against a tyrant whom you know is
capable of terrible things.
But it’s not easy at all! Tyrants are capable of all manner
of unspeakable horrors. But in recognition of the tyrant’s oppressive
capability, you still step forward.
Easier said than done.. How many of us today, when it comes
to our own managers at the workplace, guilty of crimes, violations and
oppression and we are too weak to step up and speak up?
2.3 The reality of “Fear”: Fear is Natural. Your REACTION determines your
courage
But let’s dial it back and take a good honest assessment of
ourselves. By now perhaps some of us are a bit worried – because perhaps we may
have fear of what we explained above : loss of wealth, isolation, deprivation,
and so on. But does this make us “cowards”?
Fact – Fear is NATURAL: everyone feels fear. In fact, for
the most part, fear is simply a psychological defense mechanism our minds
develop to protect us from harm. It can come from knowledge, or experience
developed over time.
Observe children: they do not feel fear out of common things
we perceive as dangerous such as snakes, scorpions, knives and Electrical
appliances. Because they cannot perceive the potential hazard and harms that it
can bring, and it’s only upon learning, experiencing – sometimes through tough
times or traumatic incidents – they develop a fear to protect themselves from
the recurring harm.
So the problem – that leads to cowardice – happens when this
fear of harm is over-exaggerated to the point that it cripples
and prevents us from taking action to do the right thing.
This is the purpose and function of the was-was (yakni the
whispers) of shaytan. Shaytan cannot physically prevent you from doing or
saying the right thing, but what he can do is keeps on reinforcing that fear
until you freeze and don’t act. This is what Allah refers to in surah Ali-Imran
verse 175:
إِنَّمَا ذَٰلِكُمُ الشَّيْطَانُ يُخَوِّفُ أَوْلِيَاءَهُ فَلَا تَخَافُوهُمْ وَخَافُونِ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ مُؤْمِنِينَ
"That is only Satan who frightens
[you] of his supporters. So fear them not, but fear Me, if you are [indeed]
believers."
2.4 “Fear” vs Cowardice
So where does one draw the line between an acceptable fear
and a fear that drives one into “al-jubn”?
To understand where we draw the line between “fear”,
“cowardice” and “courage”, we will take a quick look into three case studies
from the Qur’an and Sunnah:
- Prophet Musa
(alayhissalam) and his confrontation with Firaun
- The Battle of
Al-Ahzab in surah Al-Ahzab: the reaction of believers (companions) vs reaction
of hypocrites (munafiqun)
Case Study #1: Even Prophet Musa felt fear !
When Musa and Harun were told to confront Firaun for the
transgressions he has committed,
قَالَا رَبَّنَا إِنَّنَا نَخَافُ أَنْ يَفْرُطَ عَلَيْنَا أَوْ أَنْ يَطْغَىٰ
They said, "Our Lord, indeed we are afraid that he will
hasten [punishment] against us or that he will transgress!"
قَالَ لَا تَخَافَا ۖ إِنَّنِي مَعَكُمَا أَسْمَعُ وَأَرَىٰ
Allah says, “Don’t be afraid, both of you! Verily I am with
you, listening and watching” (Ta-Ha, verses 45-46)
Allah had to calm down Musa and tell him not to be afraid.
And even that very point of confrontation – when witnessing the work of
Fir’aun’s magicians, Allah tells us that Musa was terrified and felt fear in
his heart:
فَإِذَا حِبَالُهُمْ وَعِصِيُّهُمْ يُخَيَّلُ إِلَيْهِ مِنْ سِحْرِهِمْ أَنَّهَا تَسْعَىٰ ﴿٦٦﴾فَأَوْجَسَ فِي نَفْسِهِ خِيفَةً مُوسَىٰ ﴿٦٧﴾ قُلْنَا لَا تَخَفْ إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ الْأَعْلَىٰ
“And suddenly their ropes and staffs seemed to him from
their magic that they were moving [like snakes].
Then Musa conceived a fear in himself.
And We said (to him), “Do not be afraid – you have the upper
hand”” (Surah Ta-Ha, 66-68)
Allah once again had to provide reassurance
Musa not to be afraid!
But in spite of his fear, Musa still went ahead anyway,
proceeded and carried out his instructions anyway, confident in the help of
Allah.
Case Study #2 : Battle of Al-Khandaq (Al-Ahzab)
In another example, in surah Al-Ahzab, throughout the Battle
of Al-Khandaq, Allah describes the inner feelings of what the believers – the
companions fighting alongside the Prophet ﷺ
to defend Madinah:
إِذْ جَاءُوكُمْ مِنْ فَوْقِكُمْ وَمِنْ أَسْفَلَ مِنْكُمْ وَإِذْ زَاغَتِ الْأَبْصَارُ وَبَلَغَتِ الْقُلُوبُ الْحَنَاجِرَ وَتَظُنُّونَ بِاللَّـهِ الظُّنُونَا
[Remember] when they came at you from above you and from
below you, and when eyes shifted [in fear], and hearts reached the
throats and you assumed about Allah [various] assumptions.
هُنَالِكَ ابْتُلِيَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَزُلْزِلُوا زِلْزَالًا شَدِيدًا
There the believers were tested and shaken with a severe
shaking. (Surah Al-Ahzab, verse 10-11)
Taking these 2 case studies, we can see a common pattern
amongst the heroic, courageous believers:
They genuinely felt fear. Terrified, in fact.
Yet in spite
of their fear, they pressed forward anyway, they emerged as triumphant examples
of courage in the history of mankind.
2.5 True Definition of Courage
So these outcomes should paint a new perspective as to what
we mean by “courage” or “bravery”. To Quote in simple modern terms, allow me to
quote Nelson Mandela:
“I learned that courage was not the absence of
fear – but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not
feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear”
Let’s look at the examples of the case studies which we
mentioned earlier. Musa was well aware of what Fir’aun was capable of – he grew
up in this monster’s home! Yet he knew it was necessary so what did he do?
قَالَ رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي ﴿٢٥﴾وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي ﴿٢٦﴾ وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِنْ لِسَانِي ﴿٢٧﴾ يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي﴿٢٨﴾ وَاجْعَلْ لِي وَزِيرًا مِنْ أَهْلِي ﴿٢٩﴾ هَارُونَ أَخِي ﴿٣٠﴾ اشْدُدْ بِهِ أَزْرِي ﴿٣١﴾ وَأَشْرِكْهُ فِي أَمْرِي
[Musa] said, "My Lord, expand for me my breast, and
ease for me my task and untie the knot from my tongue so that they may
understand my speech. And appoint for me a minister from my family - Harun, my
brother. Increase my strength through
him and let him share my task (Surah Ta-Ha, verse 25-32)
2)
Put his trust in Allah,
Bismillah – he went to confront firaun
Second Case Study of Surah Al-Ahzab: Consider the case of the
believers (the companions of Rasulullah ﷺ,
radhiAllahu anhum): whom Allah describes had an intense fear to the extent that
their hearts were up to their throats.
Yet, in spite of this fear, this was their response:
وَلَمَّا رَأَى الْمُؤْمِنُونَ الْأَحْزَابَ قَالُوا هَٰذَا مَا وَعَدَنَا اللَّـهُ وَرَسُولُهُ وَصَدَقَ اللَّـهُ وَرَسُولُهُ ۚ وَمَا زَادَهُمْ إِلَّا إِيمَانًا وَتَسْلِيمًا
And when the believers saw the companies, they said,
"This is what Allah and His Messenger had promised us, and Allah and His
Messenger spoke the truth."
And it (this confrontation) increased them only in faith and acceptance. (Surah
Al-Ahzab, verse 22)
In spite of their fear – they faced it with complete
tawakkal in Allah.
KNOWING that they are collectively supporting the Cause of
Allah.
KNOWING that He will surely help them.
KNOWING that they will be granted
a death of a syahid if they were to die in this cause – and this is the
greatest blessing a person can ever aspire to achieve.
Now, contrast that to the reaction of the hypocrites:
وَإِذْ يَقُولُ الْمُنَافِقُونَ وَالَّذِينَ فِي قُلُوبِهِمْ مَرَضٌ مَا وَعَدَنَا اللَّـهُ وَرَسُولُهُ إِلَّا غُرُورًا ﴿١٢﴾ وَإِذْ قَالَتْ طَائِفَةٌ مِنْهُمْ يَا أَهْلَ يَثْرِبَ لَا مُقَامَ لَكُمْ فَارْجِعُوا ۚ وَيَسْتَأْذِنُ فَرِيقٌ مِنْهُمُ النَّبِيَّ يَقُولُونَ إِنَّ بُيُوتَنَا عَوْرَةٌ وَمَا هِيَ بِعَوْرَةٍ ۖ إِنْ يُرِيدُونَ إِلَّا فِرَارًا
And [remember] when the hypocrites and those in whose hearts
is disease said, "Allah and His Messenger did not promise us nothing but lies!"
And when a faction of them said, "O people of
Yathrib, there is no stability for you [here], so return [home]."
And a
party of them asked permission of the Prophet, saying, "Indeed, our houses
are unprotected," while they were not exposed. They did not intend
except to flee (from the Battlefield)
(Al-Ahzab, verses 12-13)
This is the case of the hypocrites: Defeated. Overcome by
fear. Cowardice.
Notice how both sides did indeed have fear –
but it’s how they dealt with it that defined who they are.
Cus D’Amato (personal trainer for Mike Tyson) said:
“The
Hero and the coward both feel the same thing : fear.
It’s what you do
with (your fear) – that’s what matters”
In spite of the fearful situation they were confronted with,
the believers took ownership of the situation, made du’aa, put their trust in
Allah, bismillah.
Mastery over fear. This is true courage. True courage is not
to be “fearless” – rather, true courage is, in spite of the fear, going in
scared with tawakkul in Allah.
Or in simple terms, “go in scared – with the trust in
Allah”.
2.6 Overcoming Fear : Developing Courage
So let’s look into some simple, practical steps on how we
can overcome cowardice and develop courage and bravery in ourselves.
And again, the emphasis here is the courage for the sake of
Allah : in doing acts of worship and pleasing Allah. Whether it be the courage
to
- Turn to Allah, to become a
better Muslim
- Dress in a way that Allah
has ordained in the shari’ah
- Give da’wah or in calling
towards good and warning others against sins
First of all, none of us should be discouraged if we are not
inherently ‘courageous’ per se. That we are not “born” courageous. Like any
other skill in life, it can be trained, developed.
Sure, some people may have more “talent” – they have better
risk appetite, tolerance for pain, resistance against fears, a higher risk
appetite and so on – but a lot of that also has to do with their surroundings
and environment that shaped their characteristic.
Now let’s one principle very clear: courage does not mean “reckless”.
People often associate the word courage with that of a daredevil – having no
fear of the dangers or outcome. Surprisingly, quite the opposite is true:
courage is to be completely mindful of the situation, and diving anyway.
The key is in developing tawakkul. Taking the
example of the two case studies:
#1 Make Du’aa
Just as Musa taught us when instructed to confront Fir’aun –
the worst tyrant in the history of mankind – the first step is to ASK the
Source of all strength. Though this may seem like an obvious point, the
emphasis here is our attitude towards du’aa. When we ask Allah for something, it’s
not “oh just make du’aa”.
No, we need to be empowered that we are asking One who is
All-Hearing, All-Merciful, All-Powerful and the Source of All Strength.
In that same way that he can grant strength to the Prophet ﷺ to remove shirik and polytheism in the Arabian Peninsular, the
same way he gave the strength to defeat the Quraisy at Badar, He can give you
the strength to overcome your fears
#2 Have Confidence in the Help of Allah
إِنْ يَنْصُرْكُمُ اللَّـهُ فَلَا غَالِبَ لَكُمْ ۖ وَإِنْ يَخْذُلْكُمْ فَمَنْ ذَا الَّذِي يَنْصُرُكُمْ مِنْ بَعْدِهِ ۗ وَعَلَى اللَّـهِ فَلْيَتَوَكَّلِ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ
If Allah should Help you, no one can overcome you; but if He
should forsake you, who is there that can aid you after Him? And upon Allah let
the believers rely.
(Surah Ali Imran, verse 160)
Understand that no Harm or Benefit can come except if Allah
wills it.
The Prophet ﷺ said,
وَاعْلَمْ
أَنَّ الأُمَّةَ لَوِ اجْتَمَعَتْ عَلَى أَنْ يَنْفَعُوكَ بِشَيْءٍ لَمْ
يَنْفَعُوكَ إِلاَّ بِشَيْءٍ قَدْ كَتَبَهُ اللَّهُ لَكَ وَلَوِ اجْتَمَعُوا عَلَى
أَنْ يَضُرُّوكَ بِشَيْءٍ لَمْ يَضُرُّوكَ إِلاَّ بِشَيْءٍ
“Know that if the entire nation were to gather together to
do something to benefit you- you would never get any benefit except that Allah
had written for you.
And if they (the entire nation) were to gather to do
something to harm you - you would never be harmed except that Allah had
written for you.”
(Narrated by At-Tirmidzi who graded the hadith hasan sahih)
#3 Develop a Sense of Urgency
To push ourselves out of our own comfort zones into
unfamiliar, fearful territory, we need to constantly create a sense of urgency
in ourselves.
Now, interestingly, whether we realize it or not, actually
we have been through many terrifying and fearful circumstances and situations
in our lives some of them include:
o
Getting circumcised
o
University
o
Job interview
o
Dentist
o
Going to the dentist
o
Marriage
o
Parenthood
Many of these circumstances are absolutely terrifying – yet
we go through them. And as a result, we become a better person.
Every time we venture out of our comfort zone, out of that
fearful territory of the unknown, every time we adapt, we redefine ourselves.
Courage is the aptitude to continuously venture out of these comfort zones –
not just for the heck of it like a reckless daredevil – rather, with that clear
vision in mind: to become better people. Thus with respect to ourselves as
Muslims, to become better believers, who please and obey Allah better.
But those day-to-day examples we through which I mentioned
earlier – school, university, dentist, job interviews, parenthood – many a
times, we were kind of ‘forced’ into these situations where we literally have
to sink or swim: there is an inherent urgency; we HAVE to adapt. Or else, we
would see the immediate negative impact! E.g.
o
If I fail university, I
might not get a job.
o
If I don’t see the doctor,
my health might deteriorate
o
If I fail in parenthood, I
might be responsible for unleashing
..And because we know the consequences of failure are too
severe for us to risk, we force ourselves to survive through them.
So this is our challenge as Muslims – when it comes to the
acts of righteousness and obligations of our deen, most of the time, there is
nothing that “forces” us out of our comfort zones to be brave and courageous
and venture outside of these comfort zones: except with iman.
As believers therefore, we have create this sense of urgency
on the basis of iman and our responsibility with Allah. Hold yourself
accountable with respect to yourself and the Last Day : what will be the
consequence if you meet Allah in this state of inaction and cowardice?
o
If I don’t push myself to
tackle this fear, could this lead to a severe punishment in hell? Could I live
with the conscience knowing “I could have done something but I didn’t?”
o
If I know my friend/family
is on the path to Jahannam, and I fail to take action now, what will be the
consequences on the Last Day? Will I be able to live with the conscience that I
“did nothing” and just let things pass?
o
Is there a great benefit or
reword that I will be deprived off if I don’t take this step? Will I miss this
opportunity forever?
وَاتَّقُوا يَوْمًا تُرْجَعُونَ فِيهِ إِلَى اللَّـهِ ۖ ثُمَّ تُوَفَّىٰ كُلُّ نَفْسٍ مَا كَسَبَتْ وَهُمْ لَا يُظْلَمُونَ
"And fear a Day when you will be returned to Allah. Then
every soul will be compensated for what it earned, and they will not be treated
unjustly." (Surah Al-Baqarah, verse 281)
#4 Community Support
There is a very subtle lesson behind the du’aa of Prophet
Musa when Allah first Instructs him to go to Fir’aun : the importance of
community support.
Notice how, the Prophet specifically requested for a person
to share the responsibility to help him in the task: Prophet Harun, his
brother. And Allah granted it to him. Observe the Qur’an and take note: what
was Harun’s role in confronting Fir’aun?
Did he help the debate, was he given miracles to confront
the magicians? Actually, no.
His mere presence alone at the side of his
brother indirectly provides a morale boost of confidence to proceed with this
mighty undertaking.
No man is an island – we are affected by the influences
around us, and in turn we too have an effect to our surroundings, whether we
are conscious of it or not.
That is why the Qur’an and Sunnah constantly emphasizes the
importance of friends.
The key to developing courage is to find friends who will
help you or are at least on that same path and ambition as you are.
Peer
pressure is real: so find peers who will help influence you towards changing
you towards that better you
وَتَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْبِرِّ وَالتَّقْوَىٰ
"And help you (each other) towards righteousness and piety" (Surah Al Maidah, 2)
Look for groups that are doing what you aspire to do that: Join
niche groups that help you gradually face those fears
A personal example: Joining the Street Da’wah team. Here’s a personal
confession: I am absolutely terririfed at giving da’wah. I fear being rejected,
being judged negatively, unintentionally saying something stupid and
misrepresenting islam, having a bad emotional reaction if people say something,
losing a friend – the list goes on.
So what did I do? A few years ago, I signed up for my very
first Street Da’wah. I was still scared to the bone, yes but I saw this as an
opportunity to face these fears as a jamaah. So I called up a friend to join –
and his first response was “I’m not used to giving da’wah”. And my response to that was, “fantastic – me
too! Let’s do this!”. So bismillah, we went.
And subhanAllah, coming to that environment – seeing so many
other brothers, wearing that same t-shirt, being comforted by the “seniors” on
communication technique, just gave that extra edge of confidence to do what
I’ve never done before: speak to strangers about Islam.
Now in hindsight, perhaps I didn’t do very well – for the
whole day I probably managed to talk to like 4 people. I would imagine some
people managed to get more than 4 syahadahs. But as far as I am concerned: that
is one super achievement I never thought I could ever do. That’s four more than
the average day. Great!
Am I still terrified? Yes. But it’s a bit more familiar now.
Next session, let’s target five to six people!
2.7
Example: Fear of Public Speaking?
How many of you out there have a fear of public speaking?
Me too. Yes, up till this day I actually still get very
nervous and very anxious everytime I am in front of the microphone.
“But you don’t look nervous!”
Exactly: I don’t LOOK nervous. But I’m terrified deep inside
– I just train myself to suppress that fear and nervousness: out of
understanding the necessity to clearly deliver a message. In other words,
pretend I’m confident long enough to convince others that I’m actually somewhat
confident.
So you can imagine, when someone nominate me for becoming a
speaker for the Straight Path, I was terrified. I had fear that:
·
I am not qualified
·
People will reject me, and
question "who is this unknown guy?! Who does he think he is to give us advice?!"
·
What if I do a lousy job,
if I mess up, what if I give a bad impression to the organizers, of the
Malaysian public
·
What if I forget my script,
fumble on stage, look like a fool, and stutter?
I could have turned it down with all due respect, I could
give a very valid excuse of not being qualified, and give a fake façade of
“humility”.
But at the same time I convinced myself: that these people
are entrusting you to deliver something. If you had a chance to inspire others,
move their hearts to become a better believer, would you take it?
How can I aspire the ummah to be brave, if at this juncture
of great opportunity, I chicken out and give excuses?
And the topic they assigned to me this year – “Bravery and
Generosity” – was terrifying!
I mean, I myself am in desperate need to listen about this!
Again I was tempted to give it a pass
But I gave it much deep thought and after much researched, I
asked myself: if I believe that I need to be brave – and ironically, chicken
out from talking about bravery?
What’s a matter McFly, chicken?
No, mate. Pull yourself together. Step out of your comfort
zone. Take the challenge, travel the road less taken… do what many others aren’t
willing to do. Turn this opportunity as a means for your success on the Day of
Judgment.
Yes, you’re afraid, but make du’aa, make the preparations,
put your tawakkal in Allah, bismillah let’s go.
2.8 Conclusion on Bravery
Public speaking and speaking up for the truth just a case
study example; all of us have different challenges and areas in our lives where
we need to apply courage.
All of us have different challenges, capacities, and
capabilities. Seek where you fit in, and where you can develop this commendable
trait with your lives.
I want you all to ask yourselves: Look for specific areas in
your life. Ask yourself: what are the aspects of your life that are holding you
back because of fear?
Remember : Courage isn’t the absence of fear. It’s the
mastery over it.
Abu Huraira reported that there came a person to the
Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)
and said:
“O Messenger of Allah, which charity is the best?”
Upon this he said:
أَنْ تَصَدَّقَ وَأَنْتَ صَحِيحٌ
شَحِيحٌ تَخْشَى الْفَقْرَ وَتَأْمُلُ الْغِنَى
That you should give charity (in a state when you are)
healthy and close-fisted, one haunted by the fear of poverty, hoping to
become rich (charity in such a state of health and mind is the best).
(Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
This hadith tells us that despite your fear of poverty, you
fight against your nafs and your desires and spend anyway, and
this is the greatest form of charity.
In fact quite interestingly, the BEST charity is coming from
one who is stingy and FEARS poverty.. the reward can actually be more
virtuous
·
Compare a person who is
more ‘risk averse’ versus someone who is relatively brave at taking risks (an
aggressive entrepeneur comes to mind) – for the less courages, more “risk
averse” person to still take the plunge, is actually more virtuous than the one
who is naturally brave
·
Compare a person who is
miserly as compared to a person who is naturally generous. For the generous
person to give 10 dollars in charity might be easy for him compared to the
miser – but if the miser does it anyway, struggles with hisinner self in
spite of his fear of poverty: this reward is “the greatest sadaqah”
with a higher reward in the Sight of Allah, even though the physical intrinsic
value is exactly the same on the surface.
Main lesson of hadith: We should be optimistic! If we feel
we are afflicted with miserliness or cowardice, we shouldn’t give up or feel
bad ourselves. In fact we should actually rejoice – that at this juncture as we
speak, we are now given a chance to give the BEST form of charity or bravery,
if we push ourselves against our nafs!
3 Miserliness / Stinginess – االبخل
This hadith brings slides us comfortably into the next topic
: generosity. And this is primarily about overcoming al-bukhl :
miserliness/stinginess.
The link between cowardice and miserliness is as stated in
the hadith above: fear of poverty, holding us back from spending in the Cause
of Allah.
So to put things into perspective and context, “al-Jubn” is
a more general form of “cowardice”, which stems from any form of fear, where as
“al Bukhl” is more specific form of cowardice which comes from the fear of
poverty or less of wealth.
And this is one of the easiest ways for shaytan to get to
us: through our pockets; money. Shaytan knows this and this is also his weapon
الشَّيْطَانُ يَعِدُكُمُ الْفَقْرَ
“Shaitan threatens you with poverty” (Surah Al-Baqarah,
verse 268)
You see, Shaytan doesn’t hold us from spending by physically
withholding our hands from giving: rather, his only tools come in the form of whispers:
he feeds into this fear of poverty.
And the more give in to these whispers, the fear of poverty incites
us into all sorts of haram because of money: deception, lies, backstabbing and
betrayal, backbiting, compromising religious obligations or falling into haram
for money, and in this context, prevents us from spending in ways which can
earn the Pleasure of Allah.
3.1
Our Current State: The
Scarcity Mindset
This fear of deprivation is born out of what is defined in
modern terms as a “scarcity mindset”: The thinking that resources in this world
are finite and limited: we need to grab our piece of the pie quickly, so that
we won’t lose our share.
Our problem today is that we live in a modern world living
through the side-product of today’s capitalistic society with a prevalent
scarcity mindset: we feel resources are finite, need to rush, take it quickly
before we run out - drives us to be miserly and stingy.
This is also an inadvertent byproduct of how we spend our
time in this modern world in the 21st century; from media
advertising – both mainstream and social media. Look at your social media feeds
– people are always showing their “highlight reel” – you are always comparing.
The end effect: Because of this, you always feel you don’t
have enough.
Whether poor or rich, we always want more. The rich will
always want: Bigger paycheck, a better car, latest and better gear and
technology, higher rank in the corporate ladder, this brand of clothing, that
brand of handbag, shoes, this limited edition hijab, etc.
And this is exactly what was said by the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ regarding our desires, when we have this scarcity mindset:
لَوْ أَنَّ لاِبْنِ آدَمَ وَادِيًا
مِنْ ذَهَبٍ أَحَبَّ أَنْ يَكُونَ لَهُ وَادِيَانِ، وَلَنْ يَمْلأَ فَاهُ إِلاَّ
التُّرَابُ، وَيَتُوبُ اللَّهُ عَلَى مَنْ تَابَ
"If a son of Adam were to own a valley full of gold, he
would desire to have two. Nothing can fill his mouth except the earth (of the
grave). Allah turns with mercy to him who turns to Him in repentance".
(Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
As long as you keep “yearning for more”, you feel you don’t
have enough: therefore you feel you have nothing to give.
Now, to be clear, the topic of Miserliness and Generosity: we
are not just talking with respect to monetary and material wealth - although
this is DEFINITELY included, and arguably the most significant. But it also
applies to
- Knowledge, Talents and
capabilities
- Free time
- Energy
- Good health
- Influence
3.2 Abundance Mindset: Knowing Your Blessings are From Allah
Developing generosity really boils down to creating what is
known as the ABUNDANCE MINDSET.
The Prophet ﷺ said,
لَيْسَ الْغِنَى عَنْ كَثْرَةِ
الْعَرَضِ وَلَكِنَّ الْغِنَى غِنَى النَّفْسِ
Richness does not lie in the abundance of (worldly) goods
but richness is the richness of the soul (heart, self).
(Al-Bukhari, Muslim)
True wealth isn’t necessarily about having a lot of wealth –
but rather, the mindset to convince ourselves that we are wealthy and have
excess. We have more than enough to spare.
Abundance is not how much you have. Rather, it is in how you
see the world and what you are. It’s really a state of being, consciousness
coming from gratitude and gratefulness, recognizing these blessings are from
Allah.
This is Steven Covey writes about in his famous book “7
Habits of Highly Effective People” when he talks about the 5th
principle, “Think Win-Win”, he highlights that one of the keys to developing a
“Win-Win” mindset is to develop an Abundance Mindset.
He writes, and I quote:
“The Abundance Mentality, flows out of a deep inner sense
of personal worth and security. It is the paradigm that there is plenty
out there, and enough to spare for everybody. It results in sharing of
presitge, of recognition, of profits, of decision making. It opens
possibilities, options, alternatives, creativity – it recognizes the unlimited
possibilities for positive interactive growth and development.”
(The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People)
The problem, however, is that in his book, while brilliant
in its concept, Mr. Covey doesn’t quite close the loop about “HOW” we can
develop that abundance mindset.
When he talks about developing abundance mindset, he
focuses: getting mentors and seniors who practice abundance.
While yes, this may work on a practical level – this really
is more of a superficial encouragement. The true driver and inspiration from
deeper than that: you need to close the loop and get to the root: what –
or rather, WHO – is the Ultimate Source of this Abundance?
Take it back to the principle: Iman in Allah.
وَمَا بِكُم مِّن نِّعْمَةٍ فَمِنَ
اللَّهِ
And whatever of blessings and good things you have, it is
from Allah.
(Surah An-Nahl, Verse 53)
So this is the key: the one fundamental principle to develop
an abundance mindset is simply an extension from tawheed ar-Rububiyyah: “To
KNOW and RECOGNIZE that the Blessings that were given to you by Allah”
It’s a very simple principle, but the
implications are enourmous if we ponder about it..
If you know that your blessings (whether it be your money,
job, good health, your time, energy, talents, family) are from Allah :
#1. You will remain humble: Not
get arrogant, become stingy/miserly and over confident , or lose yourself and
get overly happy when you are granted with something – nor will you despair if
you have been withheld from something
مَا أَصَابَ مِنْ مُصِيبَةٍ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَلَا فِي أَنْفُسِكُمْ
إِلَّا فِي كِتَابٍ مِنْ قَبْلِ أَنْ نَبْرَأَهَا ۚ إِنَّ ذَٰلِكَ عَلَى
اللَّـهِ يَسِيرٌ ﴿٢٢﴾ لِكَيْلَا تَأْسَوْا عَلَىٰ مَا فَاتَكُمْ
وَلَا تَفْرَحُوا بِمَا آتَاكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ لَا
يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخْتَالٍ فَخُورٍ ﴿٢٣﴾
No disaster strikes upon the earth or among yourselves
except that it is in a register before We bring it into being - indeed that,
for Allah, is easy.
In order that you not despair over what has eluded you
and not exult [in pride] over what He has given you. And Allah does not like
everyone self-deluded and boastful (Surah Al-Hadid, 22-23)
#2. Gratitude to the source of
your favors
The One who granted it to YOU but not necessarily to anyone
else, not because you’re better than them, it’s not because you DESERVE it –
but it is out of the Wisdom and Mercy of Allah. We look to other people’s
social media feeds and think “wow wouldn’t be nice if I had that?” But we
forget – or perhaps, fail to realize – that as we speak, there
are other people are looking at our social media feed and
thinking “wouldn’t be nice if I had this…?”
وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِنْ شَكَرْتُمْ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ
And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, 'If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor] (Surah Ibrahim, verse 7)
Gratitude is not just about lip service – it must be made known and manifest from the action of your limbs.
And of gratitude is to ensure you use the blessings in ways that do not earn the wrath and displeasure of the One who granted it to you in the first place.
انْظُرْ كَيْفَ فَضَّلْنَا بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ ۚ وَلَلْآخِرَةُ أَكْبَرُ دَرَجَاتٍ وَأَكْبَرُ تَفْضِيلًا
"Look how We have favored [in provision] some of them over
others. But the Hereafter is greater in degrees [of difference] and greater in
distinction." (Surah Al-Isra, verse 21)
What Allah grants us is not an indicator that He loves us –
He also gave to Fir’aun, and He also granted hardship to the best of mankind.
The true blessing lies in the hereafter.
#3.
You will have compassion
towards other slaves to Allah
knowing that Allah has blessed you over His other slaves,
you will feel the obligation to share. What Allah Gave to you, it is not
because you’re inherently special, neither did others be deprived of it because
they are sinners or disbelievers.
#4.
You have THAT much HOPE for Better Things to Come
This is a point we sometimes forget.
When you KNOW and RECOGNIZE that the Blessings that were
given to you by Allah – the One who is Rabb Al-Alamin, Al-Ghani, Al-Wahha –
then you have THAT much HOPE to aspire for something greater ahead, because the
source of your blessings are an infinite, never-ending source!
Consider for a second:
- That same Lord who gave you
your first paycheck, is the same Lord that granted the great wealth of
Dzul-Qarnain, Prophet Sulaiman and Bill Gates
- That same Lord who inspired
you and granted you with the ability to give those two or three ringgits in
charity, is the same Lord who granted the strength to Umar to give away half of
his wealth, the same Lord who turned Warren Buffet
- That same Lord who gave you
the knowledge and ability to memorize surah al-Fatihah and surah Al-Ikhlas, is
the same Lord who granted imam Ahmad to memorize one million hadiths, is the
same Lord who granted the understanding and Fiqh to Imam Asy-Syafi’ee, the same
Lord who granted Albert Einstein’s knowledge
- That same Lord who inspired
you to MAKE TIME to pray ASR in your busy daily work schedule is the same lord
who granted the barakah of time to Imam An-Nawawi to write those HUGE number of
books despite passing away at such a young age
·
Imagine the infinite
possibilities if you are grateful..
#5.
OPTIMISM: Tawakkul in the Wisdom of Allah
Even if you don’t get more, it’s out of the Perfect Divine Wisdom that
Allah wants to TEACH you
وَعَسَىٰ أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰ أَنْ تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ
But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and
perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know
not. (Surah Al-Baqarah verse 216)
#6.
Taking Accountability: as an "Amanah" (A trust)
Know for a fact that you will be questioned : These posessions, time, health, capabilities – all those blessings – do not belong to you. The ownership of what you have now is only a temporary trust – an amanah.
You have no right to cling on to it with your
dear life. It is what you do with it within this temporary time frame : this
short life in this world, that will prove your worth.
Remember: you will be questioned for your wealth and the
blessings Allah gave you –
ثُمَّ لَتُسْأَلُنَّ يَوْمَئِذٍ عَنِ النَّعِيمِ ﴿٨﴾
Then you will surely be asked that Day about pleasure.
(Surah At-Takathur, verse 8)
These
are all the implications extracted from just this one fundamental principle:
knowing that your blessings are from Allah.
And
now that we know that, we have an obligation to demonstrate how thankful you
are to Allah – not just through your words, but by your deeds.
You
have your posessions, your blessings - what are you going to do with it?
3.3 True Generosity
So how can we attain true generosity in our lives?
I can give you examples of great philanthropists – people
who have donated millions and billions in charity, in our times people like
Sulaiman Ar-Rajhi. Or perhaps the companions of Rasulullah ﷺ
and the salaf who gave out hundreds of thousands of deenars and dirhams. And Masha
Allah these are indeed amazing examples – we need more people like this: it’s
people like these who become the foundations to facilitate a great deal of
benefit for the ummah as a whole.
But I want to dial things back a notch.. and relate it back
to you and I.
Where can we start? Where do you and I belong on this scale
of generosity in the ummah?
How can we ever hope to be amongst the “generous” in the
sight of Allah?
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " سَبَقَ دِرْهَمٌ مِائَةَ
أَلْفٍ " . قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَكَيْفَ قَالَ " رَجُلٌ
لَهُ دِرْهَمَانِ فَأَخَذَ أَحَدَهُمَا فَتَصَدَّقَ بِهِ وَرَجُلٌ لَهُ مَالٌ
كَثِيرٌ فَأَخَذَ مِنْ عُرْضِ مَالِهِ مِائَةَ أَلْفٍ فَتَصَدَّقَ بِهَا "
.
It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said:
"The Messenger of Allah said: 'A Dirham was better than a hundred thousand
Dirhams.' They said: 'O Messenger of Allah, how?' He said: 'A man had two
Dirhams and gave one in charity, and another man went to part of his wealth and
took out a hundred thousand Dirhams and gave them in charity."'
(Narrated by An-Nasa'i)
What can we learn from this hadith?
Allah multiplies the reward of what you give according to
your means, even if the absolute monetary value might not seem like much.
Consider for a second : the value of a charity worth a hundred dollars. For a
multi-millionaire, a hundred dollars is virtually nothing – a drop in the
ocean, a needle in a haystack. But for a poorer individual who has less than a
thousand dollars in his account, and still give away a hundred dollars in
charity – a significant chunk of his entire savings – that is genuinely
difficult.
The true measure of generosity is to give to the
extent of what you currently have – even if it’s not much. You don’t
have to be rich – but that willingness to give out from what you love the most
: even if that is little.
Now, this is Great news for us! In the sight
of Allah, we don’t have to be a millionaire or billionaire to be considered
generous! we have just as much possibility of becoming “generous” as the
millionaire – we just give more from what we have!
Start with the spirit of giving now. You can
be super generous in the sight of Allah, from whatever starting
point you are right here, right now.
Don’t wait until you become millionaire before you become a
philantropist: if you don’t start now, don’t be so sure that you can do
it “later” when you are wealthy
3.4 Developing Generosity
The key to developing generosity is to internally train
ourselves to inculcate that abundance mindset.
#1 Investment mindset
Change the paradigm of what you spend and give for the sake
of Allah:
What you spend for the sake of Allah is your investment,
not sacrifice.
Consider the following hadith:
قَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ قَالَ
النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم " أَيُّكُمْ مَالُ وَارِثِهِ أَحَبُّ
إِلَيْهِ مِنْ مَالِهِ ". قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَا مِنَّا أَحَدٌ
إِلاَّ مَالُهُ أَحَبُّ إِلَيْهِ. قَالَ " فَإِنَّ مَالَهُ مَا قَدَّمَ،
وَمَالُ وَارِثِهِ مَا أَخَّرَ ".
Narrated `Abdullah ibnu Mas’ud
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Who among you loves the
wealth of his heirs more than his own wealth?"
They replied, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)!
There is none among us but loves his own wealth more." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "So, his wealth is whatever he spends
(in Allah's Cause) during his life (on good deeds) while the wealth of his
heirs is whatever he (keeps, and therefore) leaves behind after his
death."
(Narrated by Al-Bukhari)
This hadith introduces to us a major Paradigm shift on the
true nature of the wealth that we own: what you spend, is actually what you
own. What you keep, is in fact what will be inherited and lost.
Have the complete reliance that every single cent that you
spend will be repaid in full : not only that but will be multiplied.
The enouragement from Qur'an and Hadith about sadaqah are
amazing – just take one simple hadith into perspective wherein the Prophet (ﷺ) said:
قَالَ
اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ إِذَا هَمَّ عَبْدِي بِحَسَنَةٍ وَلَمْ يَعْمَلْهَا
كَتَبْتُهَا لَهُ حَسَنَةً فَإِنْ عَمِلَهَا كَتَبْتُهَا عَشْرَ حَسَنَاتٍ إِلَى
سَبْعِمِائَةِ ضِعْفٍ وَإِذَا هَمَّ بِسَيِّئَةٍ وَلَمْ يَعْمَلْهَا لَمْ
أَكْتُبْهَا عَلَيْهِ فَإِنْ عَمِلَهَا كَتَبْتُهَا سَيِّئَةً وَاحِدَةً
Allah, the Great and Glorious, said: Whenever my slave
intends to do good, but does not do it, I write one good act for him, but if he
puts it into practice I wrote from ten to seven hundred good deeds in
favour of him. When he intends to commit an evil, but does not actually
do it, do not record it. But if he does it, I write only one evil.
(Muslim)
Reflect also on the promise of Allah:
مَنْ جَاءَ بِالْحَسَنَةِ فَلَهُ عَشْرُ أَمْثَالِهَا
“Whosoever brings forth a good deed – shall have ten times
(the reward) thereof to his credit..” (Surah Al-An’am, 160)
Now, we’ve all heard of this before – but how many of us are
geuninely empowered by the mere promise that Allah promised us a minimum reward
of ten-fold investment?!
Imagine for a second: your trustworthy stockbroker or wealth
adviser told you about a very profitable investment. Based on his experience
and knowledge, he tells you that based on market conditions, there is a very
good chance of turning in a huge profit this year. He tells you, the return on
investment (ROI) is 30% - meaning, if you invest 100 dollars today, by the end
of the investment period, you will get 130 dollars
Whoa. Great deal!
What are you waiting for?! Invest!
So, you put 100 dollars. Your trustworthy stockbroker who is
passionate about building your wealth, he gets excited – but also kind of
disappointed, as he asks, “That’s it?” I suggest you put more. This is a great
opportunity man – don’t waste it! You might not have that wealth available
tomorrow to make that decision
Don’t delay, right! Don’t waste any more time!
But guess what?
Based on this hadith, when you do any good deeds, when you
spend for the sake of Allah the minimum reward is 10 times. Not
30% ROI. Not even 400%. We’re talking 1,000% minimum.
And rest assured, this isn’t a “good chance” – this isn’t
just any trustworthy stockbroker or expert market analyst. This is a guarantee
from your Creator, Al-Haqq.
Yet how many of us are propelled into action at
this premise?
#2 Develop a sense of urgency
Think and ask yourselves: How
much have you invested in preparing to meet your Lord? What have you invested
in for your meeting with Allah?
Allah says in the Qur’an:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّـهَ وَلْتَنْظُرْ نَفْسٌ مَا قَدَّمَتْ لِغَدٍ
O you who have believed, fear Allah. And let every soul look
to what it has put forth for tomorrow - and fear Allah. Indeed, Allah is
Acquainted with what you do.
(Surah Al-Hasyr, verse 18)
Brothers and sisters,
Have you ever given this some thought: what would be your
biggest regret when you depart from this world? If you were to die tomorrow,
and you would BEG Allah for a chance to do good deeds, what would that good
deed be?
We did this exercise once in our local Youth Camp: If you
knew that the angel of death will come and claim your life tomorrow, and that
you only have 24 hours to live: what deeds will you do?
Most of the responses are either “tahajjud” or “recite
Qur’an”.
But do you know what Allah tells us the FIRST regret people
will express when they procrastinate their deeds until their time of death has
arrived?
وَأَنْفِقُوا مِنْ مَا رَزَقْنَاكُمْ مِنْ قَبْلِ أَنْ يَأْتِيَ أَحَدَكُمُ الْمَوْتُ فَيَقُولَ رَبِّ لَوْلَا أَخَّرْتَنِي إِلَىٰ أَجَلٍ قَرِيبٍ فَأَصَّدَّقَ وَأَكُنْ مِنَ الصَّالِحِينَ
And spend [in the way of Allah] from what We have provided
you before death approaches one of you and he says, "My Lord, if only
You would delay me for a brief term: so I would give charity and be
among the righteous."
(Surah Al-Munafiqun, 10)
This ayah tells us that the first regret is sadaqah - THEN the other righteous deeds such as tahajjud and Qur'an.
The Umayyad caliph, Sulayman ibn Abdul Malik once asked Abu
Hazim:
يا أبا حازم، ما لنا نكره الموت؟ قال : لأنكم عمرتم دنياكم وخربتم آخرتكم،
فأنتم تكرهون أن تنتقلوا من العمران إلى الخراب
قال: صدقت يا أبا حازم،
“O Abu Hazim, why do we
hate death?”.
Abu Hazim said,
“Because you have built
up your Dunya, and you have neglected and ruined your hereafter, therefore you
hate to leave that for which you built up to go to that which you have ruined”
Sulayman said: “You have spoken the truth”.
So let’s put our act together and practice our generosity
now. Invest in our Akhirah. Build our dream house in paradise: before these moments of regret.
#3 Prioritize your resources
With all that in mind, we need to actively (and
continuously) seek investment opportunities to build our akhirah!
Search for doors which your wealth can add value to the
ummah, and vary your options and reach to different layers and aspects in
society:
o
Charity organizations,
initiatives and projects – orphanages, shelters, feeding homeless, locals in
need, relief aid
o
Da’wah organizations –
funding their media campaigns, sponsoring their du’aat, sponsoring
knowledge-building crowd funding projects
But beyond that, generosity isn’t just applicable for wealth
and money, it also applies to
o
Free time
o
Knowledge, Talents and
capabilities
o
Energy
o
Good health
o
Influence
Knowledge is an important capital to be of
benefit to the ummah, and one which you need to share and benefit others
o
If you have professional
skill or talent, think of how you can use that to benefit others by way of
pro-bono services or waiving your consultancy fees
o
Are there any skills you
can benefit the organizations with? I know many brothers and sisters who took
the time to LEARN specific skill sets to aid da’wah initiatives – from learning
to edit videos, make posters, create publications.
o
We claim we don’t have
enough knowledge for da’wah, enjoining others towards the good or forbidding
them from evil. In truth, we do have enough knowledge. We have enough to convey
the little that we do know
o
Start simple: If we know
how to recite Qur’an, how many of us take the time and effort to coach our
family members on basic Tajwid of Qur’an? Are we even aware of their level of
competency in Tajwid?
o
Coach others and share
knowledge. Look out for the new guy, the intern, inquire his well-being.
On a personal note, I always remind mindself to hold myself
accountable for the knowledge that Allah has granted me. I always tell myself,
that you were once ignorant and had no knoweldge, yet:
o
Allah blessed you with
parents who emphasized the importance of knowledge, and they drove you to get a
good university education
o
Allah blessed you with colleagues,
co-workers, seniors who were willing to teach you, spend time with you and
coach you
o
Allah blessed you with
friends who starting learning the Deen, began the Right Path and brought you
along to seek knowledge, listen to lectures, attend classes, and conferences
o
You have no right to horde
and cling on to that knowledge – it’s not yours to keep. So what have you done with
it to benefit others?!
How many of us have professional talents or capabilities
that you can lend off “pro-bono” for the benefit of the ummah?
We need to seek opportunities towards these aspirations –
leverage existing connections, networks, organizations, identify the gaps and
ask yourself: where can I add value?
The value of being present
Okay, so perhaps there may be some of us who have taken a
good, honest assessment ourselves – and we still consider ourselves not having
enough to give away. We “don’t have much money”, we “don’t have knowledge”, and
so on. So here’s one for you: just simply being present.
Put into perspective that the doors of charity are huge and
the Prophet ﷺ widened the definitions and opportunities
of ‘sadaqah’ .
Some of them include, though not limited to
o
Smiling
o
Kind words
o
Enjoining the good and
forbidding the evil
o
Removing something harmful
from the road
o
Helping others with their
luggage/vehicles
What pattern can we see from the above? The conclusion: your
opportunity in sadaqah is simply anything that adds value for others. Simply
landing a hand in circumstances to alleviate the burden of others. The act of
smiling adds positivity to the people around you and elevates their mood. Steps
towards the masjid indirectly encourage people to go to the masjid And as
explained in the hadith explaining that even halal intercourse with your spouse
is sadaqah: we learn that doing any good deeds in general prevents us from
sins, which is also a form of charity.
The power of showing up & being
present.
Observe the value of Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq accompanying
Rasulullah on the hijrah. Consider the case of Prophet Harun with Prophet Musa.
Their mere presence was a source of reassurance.
Where can you play your role to spend time and be present?
With your spouse, your parents, your children, your family members, your
friends in need?
It looks simple, but the impact is profound.
Let us ponder upon the hadith regarding the rights of a Muslim upon other Muslims:
حَقُّ
الْمُسْلِمِ عَلَى الْمُسْلِمِ خَمْسٌ رَدُّ السَّلاَمِ، وَعِيَادَةُ الْمَرِيضِ،
وَاتِّبَاعُ الْجَنَائِزِ، وَإِجَابَةُ الدَّعْوَةِ، وَتَشْمِيتُ الْعَاطِسِ
"The rights of a Muslim on the Muslims are five:
- To
respond to the salaam,
- visiting the sick,
- to follow the funeral processions,
- to
accept an invitation, and
- to reply (i.e. make the prescribed du'aa) for those who sneeze."
(Al-Bukhari)
We may not realize it, but these “little deeds” have a deep,
profound and life-long lasting impact to the one receiving it! Let me relate to
you some personal examples which I know firsthand:
- Accepting invitation - Friends attend walimah - My own friend testified, he will never forget the moment that his school friend whom has never met since primary school – about 15 years – suddenly just appear at his wedding. Although they only met for like 1-2 minutes, he was so touched just to see him there come all the way from outstation just to be present – and he will never forget it until he dies
- Visiting sick - When my father was hospitalized in the ICU about 11-12 years ago, he had friends visited him constantly. A few weeks later as he recovered – Alhamdulillah – and slowly regained consciousness, he slowly recognized the friends and family around him, visiting. But fast forward to today: if you were tp mention several names of his friends, the first thing that my father will describe him/her is that “he is the one who came and visit me when I was sick”. Even though they’ve been friends for 30-40 years, the one significant characteristic about this friend is, he was present in my time of need at the hospital. Even if it was just a few short minutes.
- Attend janazah – my own relatives I will always remember those who attend the funeral of my grandfather and uncle. Those touching moments of loss, yet profound warmth comforted by a large family gathering that is in practice so difficult to gather were it not for Eid or a funeral. Even if one considersthe recent tragedy in New Zealand – Prime Minster herself went and shared her condolences. Although she did many other really good things, but just this genuine one act alone, of showing up, being present on the ground to console the family of those killed – that act alone solicited the love, respect, and admiration from the entire world, including the non-Muslims.
Consider the other possibilities, especially in volunteering
and assisting in charity initiatives, da’wah organizations, helping others
fulfill their needs, your hospitality with neighbours, family and friends:
these are all forms of sadaqah and your proof of developing generosity for the
sake of Allah.
In short, prioritize your resources to what fits Allah has
blessed YOU with.
Sometimes our tendency is that we don’t have “time”. So how
does one find time?
Fact: You cannot “find time”, you make time.
In the same way that you can’t “find spare change” to
invest. If you genuinely consider this your priority, you SET aside your money
to give in charity and to invest in your akhirah.
#4 Start with consistent, small acts of kindness
Alright, fine. Not let’s just say - in the highly unlikely hypothetical situation - that a person doesn't have much
wealth, knowledge OR time.
You can still practice generosity - simply by small acts of kindnesses with other fellow human beings.
When Anas described the Prophet ﷺ
was a prime example of Generosity (yakni - وَأَجْوَدَ النَّاسِ
- the most generous of people), it wasn’t just with respect to
his wealth (which he was indeed absolutely generous with) – but if you observe his
daily life in his sirah, you will see that he was supremely generous with
respect to his warm dealings with people.
The Prophet would spend time playing with children, visit
some of his companions who are not even his relatives, an old woman would ask his
help and he wouldn't refuse, narrations from A'isya indicated how much he would
spend time with his family, bond with them, have conversations and even play
with them.
He would never fail to greet his companions in warm,
friendly manner.
Jareer ibn `Abdullah said:
قَالَ جَرِيرُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ
ـ رضى الله عنه مَا حَجَبَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مُنْذُ أَسْلَمْتُ،
وَلاَ رَآنِي إِلاَّ ضَحِكَ.
"Since the time I accepted Islam, the Prophet (peace be
upon him) never once failed to notice me. Every time he saw me, he would smile
at me."
(Al-Bukhari, Muslim)
That’s what makes the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ such an amazing character – and we should learn from his
example! In spite the stress of his life as a Prophet, Leader, parent, mufti,
teacher, imam and others, juggling the multitudes of heavy responsibilities and
challenges – yet he never fails to carry himself with complete composure, and
find the strength in him to smile at others.
Yet consider this for a second: Can anyone claim that the Prophet wasn't really a busy person? That he has
a lot of free time in his hands?
No way, he was the most busy person ever!
Yet he still committed every moment of interaction with others as opportunities to uplift others. And sometimes that's all we need to do: just add that extra bit of "nice" in our little interactions: beginning with our cheerful faces. The Prophet said,
لاَ
تَحْقِرَنَّ مِنَ الْمَعْرُوفِ شَيْئًا وَلَوْ أَنْ تَلْقَى أَخَاكَ بِوَجْهٍ
طَلْقٍ
"Don't consider insignificant (your) good deeds,
even if it is that you meet your brother with a cheerful
face"
(Muslim)
Identify what “little things” and “small acts of kindness”
in practicing generosity, actions that you can do on a consistent basis, and
gradually work your way up.
What are you good at, what can I contribute today? Give!
Simple things you can do in your day to day lives:
- Greetings salams to those
you don’t know – the Prophet said this is amongst the best characteristics of
Islam. How do you greet the people around you? How do you treat the cleaners,
security guards, receptionists at the office? Do we bother greeting them? It
doesn’t require any additional working time!
- Give your smile,
acknowledgement, random acts kindness
- Caring, give opportunity.
Be Generous in Wisdom, support and time
- Smile and bring a positive
environment around you – spread words of encouragement
- Be a good host, look out
for people who need help and directions
- On the way to the musolla
during prayer time – invite others to pray
Great acts of generosity do not necessarily require a lot of
money. It simply requires passion – a compassion towards other slaves of Allah
– driven by your belief in Allah and the Last Day.
4. Mark of the Muslims– the Big Picture
Brothers and sisters… the title of Our Ummah was once known
on a global scale as a great nation of honorable, generous, and brave Muslims.
People would simply look at the companions, be amazed at their great character,
they would think “man, I want to be like him”, and immediately embrace Islam,
no questions asked. They want a piece of what makes this guy so amazing.
Wouldn’t we like to see this glorious identity restored to
us?
The ingredients are all here: The Qur'an, sunnah, the sirah, the historical icons amongst the salaf still preserved for us to follow in the footsteps. It's just now upon us to SEEK and ACT upon it.
For the Muslim ummah to be identified with characteristics of greatness once again,
necessitates that it is done on a larger scale. And that means we – you and I,
ALL OF US – need to play our role to develop courage and generosity in our
lives.
If one person alone does it, perhaps it will be associated with him as
an individual. It won’t be a “mark of Muslims”, people will just assume that
“he is just like that”. “different breed”, “upbringing not like many of us”.
No sir, we all have to play our role. Every single one of us
– do not exempt yourself and expect the ummah to change if you don’t change. Do
not assume that “somebody else will do it”: because if you think like this,
perhaps others will too. And if others continuously think like this, where will
the change ever begin?
إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُغَيِّرُ مَا
بِقَوْمٍ حَتَّىٰ يُغَيِّرُوا مَا بِأَنفُسِهِمْ
Verily! Allah will not change the good condition of a people
as long as they do not change their state of goodness themselves (Surah Ar-Rad, Verse 11)
As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in People”
People always complain about the environment and external
influence.
Well, guess what? You are also part of the environment. You also have an
effect to the people around you. Perhaps you might be the one who triggers your
community to be the change that we need.
And don’t worry if it doesn’t “seem to have an effect”.
History has proven us one thing: If it's worth knowing, Allah is the one who
will add the barakah and will make it known to others as an example to follow.
Open up the books of history: How many stories of the salaf
- they always try to keep it a secret, so that it's a private deed between them
and Allah, to preserve the value of ikhlas: yet somehow Allah finds ways to “expose”
and reveal it to us as an inspiration.
I relate to you the story of Ali bin Husayn – who was the
grandson of Ali bin Abi Talib, he was also known as Zainul Abidin
(the adornment of worshippers)
When he passed away and they washed his janazah, they
suddenly discovered that he had these visible black marks on his back – it was
said that “this is the back of a person who carries huge loads – but as far as
we are aware, he never worked as someone who did that”.
But after his death, people realized that suddenly a
hundred homes in Madinah – homes of widows and orphans – these hundred houses
suddenly were deprived from food supply. It turns out that all this time,
(every night) Ali bin Husayn has been delivering food supply to these houses,
and these hundred homes do not know who delivered it to them.
(Enjoy Your Life, chapter “To worship in secret”)
He struggled his utmost level best to keep his deed a secret
– and only after his death Allah makes his deed known to people,
the inspiring selfless act of charity and demonstration of generosity, and Allah
grants so much barakah to it that we are speaking about this contribution 1300
years later.
What can we learn from this?
Don’t worry about the results of your
righteous deeds. Worry about how sincere you are. Leave the
results to Allah.
5. Closing: Remember Who You Are
If there is only ONE key takeaway message from this talk in
our steps towards developing bravery and generosity :
Always take it back to your identity : you are a Mukmin. A
believer.
Link it back to Belief in Allah and Last Day. Worry about
pleasing Allah, to attain success in the Hereafter. The more you adhere to your
identity, the more good deeds you do, the stronger your iman, the more
steadfast you are to keep your eyes on the prize: the stronger your will your
adherence to re-enforce these behaviors.
To become brave and generous and other traits of awesomeness
– that is OUR mark we aspire to achieve.
Remember the words of Mufasa to Simba:
Brothers and sisters,
Our time is now – to seize the day, rise and make our mark.
So let’s go out there, and be brave. Be generous. Be legendary. Be
believers.
سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ
وَبِحَمْدِكَ أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ
إِلَيْكَ
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