What defines you? What legacy have you left behind?

"Think farming. What do you do if you want a great harvest? Plant lots of good seed.

What happens if you eat up the seed? No harvest. Life is farming" (Yawar Baig, "Thought share - life lessons of 55 years")

Have we ever allowed others to reap the benefits of the seeds we have planted?

"It is your character, your actions, what you stand for, your principles and your values, which define you.

Not what you possess. What you possess can be stolen or taken away from you.

Your character, your values, your principles - these are the stuff of memories that you leave behind.

By these you will be remembered, honorably or otherwise.

Live a life such that you will be remembered with honor.

Anyone sensible enough will seek to add value to himself, not cost. Possessions add cost, not value.

People who believe that possessions add value, or seek to convince others of this, seemingly have no value for themselves.

The 'awesomeness' of your car, your house, your watch, your clothing - none of these define you, are not statements, nor indicators of what human being you are." (Mirza Yawar Baig, "Bringing Up a Muslim Child")

We tend to deceptively drive ourselves into the mentality that our significance is marked by the physical magnitude of the wealth and richess we leave behind.

Let's take a step back and evaluate for ourselves - how do you measure the significance of a person? Let's take an easy example, the Top 100 Most Influential Persons in History, by Michael Hart. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_100

And you will see that, this contemporary historian acknowledges that, throughout the course of human history - all the 100 most influential people, are not recognized for the material wealth that they leave behind. It's always the contribution, the role and effect they have have on society - and the footprint they leave behind on the hearts and minds of other men - men and women who have never met them - many many years after their death.

Which really puts into perspective, the authentic hadith narrated in Sahih Muslim, where the Prophet, Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"When the son of Adam dies, all of his good deeds are cut off except three:

1) a perpetual charity (which continues to benefit others)

2) good knowledge which benefits others; and

3) the prayers of a righteous child/progeny for his parents"

When you leave this material world, the Prophet tells us that the only thing that is of any avail to us, is of the positive things that we have left behind - the beneficial contributions to society, and the righteousness of our children (who, in turn, will continue to benefit others too!)

and you see, in some way or another, those 100 men were listed there, due to the significance of one or a combination of the three aspects listed above.*pls read disclaimer below

... Which of course, isn't surprising that this amazing statement came from the very same man - Muhammad - whom Michael Hart placed as the Number 1 most influential person in the history of mankind

Read the newspapers - memorials of people who have passed away. Who cares what physical riches they have gathered? What earned them a page in the newspaper is the true value that they've brought to the society and people around them.

Who cares about the jaded pop star who owns a 15-million dollar mansion by the sea who died because of drug overdose?

So let's take a backseat, reflect, and ask ourselves - what defines us?

What have we left behind for others?

When you go, will you be loved, or hated?

When you go, will people be relieved, or grieved, at your absence?

All that wealth and possessions that we have hoarded and amassed today - is it really that important?

Begin with the end in mind: what we do today - will these be of any avail to us tomorrow? Or even after we pass away?

..Or are we heedlessly enjoying fleeting things that will be a cause of regret, when we come back to our senses some day?

There will come, a time to change to a better person, and that time is NOW.

"Has not the time come for the hearts of those who believe to be affected by Allah's Reminder, and that which has been revealed of the truth?

Lest they become as those who received the Scripture before, and the term was prolonged for them and so their hearts were hardened?

And many of them were rebellious and disobedient" (Al-Hadid 57:16)

And Allah knows best.

- Why Islam? Why not!

"And remind them - for verily, the reminder profits those who believe" (Adz-Dzariyat 51:55)

*Disclaimer: before some of you jump on your seats, i fully acknowledge the fact that some of the people in Michael Hart's top 100 list (and some amongst the honourable mention) are not good people... in fact some of them are downright evil. No, I didn't say Hitler - but you get the point.

The point is to show the significance of the legacy we leave behind - the reason they have had such an influence is because of what they did - not what they owned.

And indeed, this also shows that conversely, any significant evil which you have caused in society will also leave a mark on them for many, many years to come.

the BLAMING culture - put an end to it!

Muhammad (peace & blessings of God be upon him), said:

“If somebody finds fault, blames you, and makes you feel ashamed of any of your defects,

do not (retaliate &) make him feel ashamed of any of his defects (in return).”

(Abu Dawud)

Usually, when somebody points out one of our shortcomings, whether in meetings, e-mails, workshops, challenge sessions, or even in domestic arguments at home – when they mention our flaws & defects, our ‘normal defense mechanism’ instinctively kicks in - we go on the defensive and start finding faults with them in return!

But – Allah tells us – the worst thing we could do is to take that insult, wrap it up, and throw it in a fireball to someone else! And yet this is something very prevalent amongst us today!

Allah tells us the effects of practicing the blaming and ‘pointing finger’ culture:

"And whoever earns a fault or a sin and then throws it on to someone innocent, he has indeed burdened himself with falsehood and manifest evil”(An-Nisa 4:112)

As if this is not given enough warning & emphasis in the Qur’an, Prophet Muhammad also said "A believer is not a fault-finder and is not abusive, obscene, or course."(Al-Bukhari, book of manners #313)

Are we having this attribute of being a BELIEVER, o Muslims?

Yes, sometimes you are wrongly at fault, stabbed in the back, and it’s VERY TEMPTING to get back at the fella – especially if you think you’re better than him/her

But you know what, O believers? Think twice before you lash out your tongue – he/she might be BETTER than you after all:

“O you who believe!

Let not some men among you laugh (& look down upon) others; it may be that they are better than them (the ones laughing);

nor let some women laugh (& look down upon) at others: it may be that that they are better (than the ones laughing)

do not defame another, or insult one another by bad nicknames

how evil is it, to insult one’s brother after having Faith

And whosoever does not repent, then such indeed are the Zalimun (the oppressors)”

(Al-Hujarat 49:11)

So the advice of our beloved Prophet in the hadith above - i.e. "do not retaliate humiliation against others" (abu dawud) - is that we should listen quietly and evaluate what we are being told:

- If this criticism is true, and there is something we can improve about ourselves, it is only to our own advantage to listen to it & heed – Alhamdulillah!

- If the criticism is unjustified, then we are rewarded for our patience and good behaviour in not retaliating. The angels (mala’ikah) will take care of defending our honour.

Yes, when he/she insults you– your ego get challenged, your honour takes a minor blow – patience will feel very painful. But you know what? Be certain, that Allah KNOWS what you’ve gone through – and He will reward you for that patience!

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said, “Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn, except that Allah will (of a surety) forgive (some of) his sins on account of his patience” (Al-Bukhari, Muslim)

.. and Allah will NEVER allow a single moment of your patience to go unrewarded & unwritten!

“And each person willl be paid in full of what he did; and He (Allah) is Best Aware of what they do.” (Az-Zumar 39:70)

A Muslim takes every available opportunity to benefit from everything – no matter what the circumstances are!

And this invincible mindset is perfectly described by the Prophet (peace be upon him):

“Amazing are the ways of a believer – there is good in every affair of his, and this is not the case with anyone else except for a believer. For if something good happens to him, he is thankful (to Allah), and thus there is good for him in it, and if a trial or difficulty befalls him, he is patient (in enduring the trial), and in that too, there is good for him” (Sahih Muslim)

Do we have what it takes to have these traits of a Believer, O brothers and sisters?

Let us all play our part to learn from & implement the ways of the Prophet as taught in the Qur’an and the Sunnah of the Prophet – and by Allah, if we do - of a surety, there will be a positive change in the society today

Allah knows best - may He make us steadfast upon patience and gratitude

- Why Islam? Why not!

How to be SERIOUSLY wealthy

Some practical advice you can do to be SERIOUSLY rich & wealthy – right here, right now – proven effective since more than 1400 years ago! Hearken, O believers!

Prophet Muhammad, (peace & blessings be upon him) said: “Richness (wealth) is not in having many possessions, but (true) richness is the richness of the soul – contentment (of the heart)” (Al-Bukhari, Muslim)

People will only be wealthy & generous when they feel they have excess wealth. When you personally train yourself to feel contentment of the heart – satisfied with all that Allah has blessed you – this will have a powerful psychological effect that make you feel wealthy no matter what Allah grants to you – even if it’s not much! If you are content, even RM 100 can have a huge amount of blessing and suffice you.

..and if you don’t be content with what you have?

Your desires will come to no end! Even if Allah gives you double from what you have now, you will ask for more. Even if Allah gives you a Mercedes, you’d wish you’d have another Ferrarri!

Even if you get an iPhone 3Gs, you'd be unthankful because you didn't wait for the new and slick iPhone 4!!

These bottomless desires are beautifully expressed in a hadith of the Prophet (peace & blessings of Allah be upon him), when he said,

"If the son of Adam were given a valley full of gold, he would desire to have a second one; and if he were given the second one, he would desire to have a third, for nothing fills the belly of Adam's son except dust. And Allah forgives he who repents to Him." (Sahih Al-Bukhari, #446)

But you know what? When you are thankful & content – you’d realize that you are well off, after all!

When you are thankful & content – even with that little salary that you’ll get, you’ll feel you’re on top of the world..! (& even feel you have enough excess to give in charity!)

Isn’t this true richness, o fellow brothers & sisters?

Hasan Al-Basri once asked a person who was desirous of wealth, “would you like that I pay you 100,000 to take away your eyesight? Would you like that I pay you 100,000 for me to take away your ears and your hearing capabilities? Would you like that I pay you 100,000 for your hands? For your feet? For your nose? For your tongue? For your heart?”

To which the student replied “no” to all his questioned. Finally, he answered,

“you’re a walking millionaire, and you don’t even know it!”

O fellow brothers in humanity,

• How many people out there are surviving with less salary, less pay, more children & more responsibilities than you? And yet our pay is ALWAYS “not enough”?
• How many people out there are having to wake up at 4am to take the bus, because they can’t afford a car? And your car ain’t “slick enough”?
• How many people out there are having to walk for hours and hours in one day just to get their daily supply of clean drinking water? And we complain of “lousy food”?
• How many people out there are missing out on the beautiful sights of Allah’s creation because Allah takes away their eyesight?
• How many people out there are having so much difficulty because they lost their feet & their ability to walk? And we hardly ever go to the masjid in congregational prayers & exercise our gratitude to the Almighty?




• How many people out there are spending their lifetimes rotting away in prison? And we claim we “don’t have enough time” to study & benefit from the final Revelation of Allah – the Qur’an!




Look to those who have less than you - and you will realize you have everything that you can possibly need!

The Prophet said, “When one of you looks at (and compares yourself with) one who stands at a higher level than you with regard to wealth and physical appearance,

he should (instead) see one who stands at a lower level than you in regard to these things,

for this will (make you grateful, and) keep you from belittling Allah’s Favour to you” (Al-Bukhari & Muslim)

Be grateful for all that you have - and not only will you conquer your own self-desires - but amazingly, Allah will give you more!

And (remember) when your Lord proclaimed, "if you are thankful, I will give you more (of My blessings); but if you are thankless, verily! My Punishment is indeed severe" (Ibrahim 14:7)

“…And whoever is grateful, truly, his gratitude is for (the good of) his ownself, and whoever is ungrateful, (he is only ungrateful only for the loss of his own self). Certainly! My Lord (Allah) is Rich, Bountiful" (An-Naml 27:40)

and what if you persist in your desires?

"and he who turns back on his heels, not the least harm will he do to Allah; and Allah will give reward to those who are grateful" (Al-Imran 3:144)

The greatest of riches that you can attain, O servants of Allah, is contentment of one’s soul, and having a contented heart, and this will not be achieved except through sincere humility to Allah, and calling upon Him in Du’aa and placing reliance upon Him.

Be the master of your desires, O servants of Allah – be content, and you shall set yourself free!

..And Allah knows best

"Why Islam? Why NOT?!"