Tuesday, June 04, 2024

Canopy and Long Langsat River Walk - Muawiyah, family and friends go to Mulu: Day 3, Sunday 2 June 2024

 


Our third day began early, heading to the 25-metre high canopy walk, starting off our trek at 7:00am. The canopy walk has a minimum age of 6 and above, so the rest of the little ones (including baby Rumaysa) had to stay back in their rooms. 


At 420m in length, one of the longest tree based canopy walks in the world, the  Mulu Canopy was is quite the construction and engineering marvel. 

You can just feel the impressive planning and execution work, with meticulous careful route planning required to lay solid pathways and cables across the strong, tall trees, without usage of heavy cranes and big machinery in the protected forest of a world heritage area. A breathtaking experience through a couple of river crossings, with a beautiful epic view overlooking the massive mountainous cave formation at the background. 


11,000 steps later, we then headed off to our well-earned  breakfast, before gearing up for one of the most thrilling adventures of the trip: Long Langsat Riverwalk. 


After a 1-hour boat ride, we parked just by the river mouth, before the main attraction of the Riverwalk: where we trekked for about 40 minutes upstream of the rapid flowing river, going as deep as 1 meter before reaching the waterfall at the end. It was a challenging walk, especially for the 6-year old little dudes, and even for me, trying to find solid footing on the rocky surfaces with baby Rumaysa on our baby carrier. 



Frankly, the waterfall at the end wasn't anything particularly spectacular, but as my buddy and fellow dad Syafiq said: "frankly, I couldn't care less about the waterfall. It was all about the experience of exposing these kids to the challenge of the river walk. Bagi diorg lasak sikit". 

And it's really quite satisfying to witness these little fellas tackle new challenges and push themselves outside of their comfort zones. And therein lies an interesting leadership & Parenting observation: Because they had peer pressure through the presence of their friends ("hey, even the girls are walking by themselves and they aren't complaining!") and adult supports for safety, the kids (including 6yo Muawiyah) could muster enough courage and resilience to push through, and in the end they did really well, with zero tantrums, breakdowns or incidents by the end of the 4-hour adventure. That's a parenting win in my books! 🎖️


Before heading back, our group mates requested the boatmen to show us around his hometown, Long Iman - one of the longhouse villages along the river. 


Overall, though a little pricey (costing between RM4k for the four of us for a 3 nights stay, flying from Miri), Alhamdulillah our Mulu trip was a nice experience with lots of variety - from caving, trekking, riverwalk, canopy walk - and was a blast to experience with groups of friends with their families. 

Monday, June 03, 2024

Muawiyah, family and friends go to Mulu - Day 2, Saturday 1 June 2024

 




After a surprisingly exciting encounter with a Grey-tailed Racer snake 🐍 at the Mulu National Park entrance, we started off our boat ride at 10:00am headed towards the Wind Cave and Clearwater Cave. 


We first stopped by the Batu Bungan Community market, where we had a blast by the Sumpit (blowpipe) shooting range 🎯 


Interesting sightings of the Lantern bug 🏮 and the One-Leaf plant 🍃


Note #1 to future self: National park is strict about leaving the cave premises by 1:30pm. So, if you start late, you eat into your exploring time - unfortunately by the time we finished the caves was close to 1:30 hence our group didn't get to swim in the clearwater streams. Maybe next time. 


Note #2 to future self: bring a camera with good night mode and zoom capabilities - it makes all the difference. 

The versatile features of the S24 camera really pulled its weight here.. Exceeded our expectations like a champ. Well done #TeamSamsung🏆


Sunday, June 02, 2024

Muawiyah, family and friends go to Mulu - Day 1, Friday 31 May 2024

 




What a day to kickoff our first day for our Gawai Long-weekend holiday at Mulu: with 21,000 steps! 


This trip we went with 3 other families: Faiz+Rosma, Syazana+Syafiq, and Yani+Haris (9 adults + 9 kids) 


Flying in from Miri via MAS Wings, we arrived at Mulu at 1:00pm. After checking in at Mulu Marriott, we headed to the national park entrance at 2:30 to immediately start our first caving adventure: to catch the bats sighting before sunset 🦇🦇🦇


After a 3km trek, we arrived at the cave entrance at 4:00pm, where we went in Deer Cave, quickly check out the famous Abraham Lincoln 🗿 before we headed back out to look at the bats moving out, from 6:00 to 6:30pm. It was a sight to behold, indeed: to see the bats moving out graceful in formation within their groups, as they head out for food: primarily insects. 


Fun fact: unlike most other forests in Malaysia, the whole Mulu barely has any mosquitos or flies, because they get eaten up by the bats! We never had to use our repellants 👍🏼


Just when we thought the day was over after the bat sighting, the evening gets interesting as there was a sudden burst of constant, heavy rain - and continues to pour throughout the entirety of our 3km walk back to the national Park entrance. In the dark with kids... That wasn't easy! After a long night walk in the rain, we made it Alhamdulillah: back at the park entrance at 7:30, and back at our rooms around 8. 


Pretty exciting start, as we ended with the day with over 21k steps with the kids in s good mood, having gone through that tough adventure with their friends. 

Muawiyah was pretty proud of himself for too: "Abah, I walk the whole journey by myself, no one had to carry me" 😁. Well done, little man. Well done indeed. Masha Allah.. Allahumma barik 🤲🏼

Thursday, May 30, 2024

Knowledge Sharing @ The Engineer’s Guide to Impactful Presentations: Tips, Tricks and Tales - 29 May, 2024

 


🤔 "I don't have time to work on presentations".  Why even bother making your presentations impactful? It's about the work, after all: We are not salesman, right?! 🤔 How to get unstuck when your ideas get rejected because "bosses don't understand" It's their problem, not ours, right?

🤔 Striking the Simplicity balance: Should we make it simple & risk losing important info, or should we show everything? Should we take the approach of "if you can convince them, confuse them"?

🤔 Are public speaking skills important? Can I be an effective presenter if I'm super nervous, introvert, not talented, and/or not spontaneous?

🤔 EQ & "The human touch": How it can make or break your proposal, and how we can better understand this and make little adjustments to be just that bit more convincing. 

🤔 Lessons Learnt in finding the "black swan": Why some technically "correct" and "accurate", or even "obviously profitable" proposals still get rejected

🤔 Addressing Generation gaps - how do we handle people from different generations, i.e. Baby Boomers, Gen-X and Millennials?  

🤔 How do you respond when get told to meet unreasonable demands or deadlines? 


These are among the topics we discussed our recent Knowledge Sharing session on Impactful Presentations.


Alhamdulillah, a very fruitful 3-hours session as we facilitate an interactive 2-way sharing by opening up discussions on the floor for participants to share their experiences and case studies. 

Beyond the "theory" of good presentations, we also shared some behind-the-scenes insight of real experiences of "lessons learnt" of past mistakes and Successes. And sharing also insights from the other perspective: how we feel and what we think when we are the chairperson, or our own subordinates present to us. These are the kind of practical insight I would have loved to learn back when I first started off as a graduate engineer.

Surprisingly, the topic which people found most interesting was about the importance of "tone of voice" (More on that next time 😁) 

 

One insightful takeaway I got from the participants was that presentation is a team effort. Yes, presenter is the face and the voice representing the team - But he/she is only one member of the team: Success or failure is a collective effort, not just the messenger. And we have to remember that when a proposal gets approved or rejected by the decision makers, they also bear some responsibility - success or failure is attributed to them. That helps to put things in perspective. 


I emphasized also that presentations are only a subset of a greater skill that is super important throughout the course of our career: Communication. With this sharing, I hope we successfully planted the seeds towards improving our emotional intelligence, communication, and relationship-building skills.

Monday, May 27, 2024

🏆 Achievement Unlocked! First medal in Archery 🎯



Alhamdulillah, last weekend's Miri Invitation 2024 was the first time I received medal in Archery, at first place for team event. 


This came as a totally unexpected surprise. Mainly because I came in last minute as a standby archer because some team members pulled out. And also because I was just an average skill, ranking #29 among the 59 archers in the individual event: right in the middle of the pack. Never thought I'd actually have a shot at winning a medal. 


But therein lies the beauty of teamwork. 


I got to team up with Athery (from Brunei) and Haron (also from Miri, also last-minute on-standby) 

 Each team member chooses a shooting distance each: either 50m, 40m, or 30m. I played 40m. 


When we combined efforts as a team, playing to our strengths, uplifting each other, covering up each other's shortcomings each round, then all of a sudden, we stood a fighting chance. Although we never really got soaring high scores, we scored consistently well enough to outdo our opposing team, if ever so slightly beating them by a small margin. And that was good enough. The Team game was a really thrilling experience, and in retrospect, perhaps the only way I ever stood a chance at winning a medal: let alone gold 🥇


Sunday, May 26, 2024

🏆 Johan: Team Event, Miri Invitation 2024




Masha Allah, pencapaian yang tidak disangka 😅❤️🥳🤲🏼

الحمد لله الذي بنعمته تتم الصالحات


Hari ini menandakan milestone baru bagi saya, kali pertama mendapat hadiah untuk Acara Game memanah, sebagai bidan terjundalam acara berpasukan, bersama dengan Cikgu Athery dari Brunei, serta Abang Haron dari Piasau (juga bidan terjun seperti saya 😁).


Dalam acara berpasukan ini, setiap pemanah menembak 3 arrow, pada 3 jarak yang berbeza: 50m, 40m, 30m. Saya memilih jarak 40m, manakala Cikgu ambil 50m dan top scorer MVP kita abang Haron pegang 30m.


Memang saspen ..  Ketika bertanding, tengok team lawan di sebelah, Kadangkala mereka menang, kadangkala kami pula. Ternyata perlu teamwork yg bagus. Bila kita kantoi, kawan kita tolong cover balik. Paling kurang, sebagai skuad penyokong dan pemberi semangat. 




Round terakhir, mereka meraih team score 16.. Dan kami menang tipis sahaja dengan score 18. Phew.. Close call 😁. 


Alhamdulillah berjaya meraih Johan untuk Acara ini. Tak sangka pula, team yang 2/3 pemain simpanan boleh menang 🥇🏆.. Masha Allah #AchievmentUnlocked.. Allahumma barik 😊

Saturday, May 25, 2024

Miri Invitation Series 1 - traditional archery competition, 25 May 2024, padang SK Anchi, Piasau Miri


 

7 arrows, 3 ends, descending distance 50m, 40m, 30m - 2 rounds 

Lane 14 bersama Haji Mazlan (Brunei), Hafiz (Sabah), Shaiful (Berkenu), Nas & Aqif (Miri)

Tuesday, May 21, 2024

“Book Signing” 20/5/24




Wow, that was unexpected 😅


The team were so happy to receive their book gifts.. One of them asked me to sign the book. Then, another staff caught on the idea. Before long, there was quite a queue 😂. 


Alhamdulillah, was a nice session to share and geek out a bit about what’s awesome about these books 🤭🤓. My hopes is that it helps them continue growing and enriching themselves in their personal and professional lives.


My message to the team, and to everyone else: Don’t feel bad if you’re not into reading (yet). Most of my professional life, I barely read a book, too - until COVID came. But once I cracked the code, found the right techniques, cues, and methods to stay motivated, it became a habit that stuck with me and made a really big impact on my life, and something I genuinely enjoy. 

In other words: It’s not you, it’s just your technique. And technique can always be learnt, revised, and improved. 


All the best in your learning journey! 📚

Sunday, May 19, 2024

📚🤓 “Leaders are Readers”

 



Gifting these books to my team of engineers in our upcoming dept meeting this week. 


These are among some of my favorite books which have shaped, inspired and influenced my way of thinking, outlook in life, etiquettes at the workplace, interacting with people, as well as my approach in managing and leading the team. 


I was careful, too, to select books which are enjoyable and “fun read”. In addition to being highly informative and practical, I chose books which I felt are also an engaging and riveting read, and hence I refrained from books that may be informative, but are dry and feels like a chore to read - including the more business-y management or deep psychology stuff. 


The key to encouraging people to build good habit is to make it fun and enjoyable (in fact, that’s pretty much the whole theme of one of these books - “Feel Good Productivity”!). Don’t just read because “you have to” (that’s why many of us fail in starting good habits. Looking at you, too, Exercise)


For me, personally, reading wasn’t a habit that I’ve had all along. It was only a habit I developed in recent years (during COVID, to be exact). Before that, I had a terrible habit of buying books, but never actually reading them (beyond page 20 🤣). 


The key was in finding the right reading medium (e-books), setting a short window of uninterrupted time every day, sharing what I’ve read, and implementing what I learnt.


I hope that in my own small way, I get to spark more interest and drive to develop the reading habit - an increasingly tougher challenge as we sink deeper into the age of digital distractions of social media, streaming services and games. 


Harry Truman, 33rd President of US once said, “not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers”.


Read any of these books? Any favorites? Any other awesome ones you recommend out there?


Do share 🤓

Monday, April 22, 2024

🌈 7 Layers of Hidayah: The Greatest Du’aa




Ibn Taymiyyah said: 

أنفع الدّعاء وأعظمه وأحكمه دعاء الفاتحة: "ٱهْدِنَا ٱلصِّرَٰطَ ٱلْمُسْتَقِيمَ ٦صِرَٰطَ ٱلَّذِينَ أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيْهِمْ غَيْرِ ٱلْمَغْضُوبِ عَلَيْهِمْ وَلَا ٱلضَّآلِّينَ ٧

the most beneficial, greatest and most comprehensive of all du'aa is this du'aa of Al-Fatihah: 

“Guide us to the straight path - The path of those upon whom You have bestowed favor, not of those who have earned [Your] anger or of those who are astray.”

The greatest du’aa is one that we make 17 times a day, every day: in our obligatory 5-daily prayers.

One might wonder: Why ask for guidance? So much and so frequently? 

Sometimes we may know the truth but we are not able to act upon it - either because we lack ability, or simply that we are lazy and lack in motivation. 
Or we may act upon it, but we may lack sincerity in our actions. 
Or maybe we act upon, but it isn’t done correctly in accordance to the sunnah.
And more importantly, today we might be upon ‘guidance’, but what about tomorrow?

Every time we ask Allah to grant us Hidayah to the Straight Path, it’s a deep, comprehensive du’aa with many layers underneath. Here are at least seven of those layers of guidance:

1. Islam - we ask Allah to guide us to the Path of Islam, the religion chosen by the One True Creator: “Veril, religion with Allah is Islam.” (3:19)

2. Knowledge - teach me beneficial knowledge. What are the ways - the quickest, shortest, most optimal path - in which we can best attain Allah’s Mercy and forgiveness to attain success in this world and the next

3. Ability - to act upon that guidance and put that knowledge into action and practice. 

4. Motivation - to open up our hearts, and grant us the tawfiq (inspiration) to act upon the knowledge and walk the talk.

5. Sincerity - to act with pure intentions, only for His Sake, and not for praise and validation from others, neither to be recompensed in any material, wordly way. 

6. Ittiba (conformity & correctness) - to act in accordance to the sunnah of His Messenger ﷺ, conforming to the standards which He Revealed his Guidance: the Qur’an and Sunnah. 

7. Steadfastness -  to keep our hearts firm, to remain consistent on that Path, and to die in the state of submission, and to meet Him while He is Pleased with us.

By default, every single human being - including you and I - are in a state of misguidance: whether it’s in one or several of these different aspects. In a Hadith Qudsi, Allah says:

يَا عِبَادِي! كُلُّكُمْ ضَالٌّ إلَّا مَنْ هَدَيْته، فَاسْتَهْدُونِي أَهْدِكُم

“O My servants, all of you are astray except those whom I have guided, so seek guidance from Me and I shall guide you.” (Muslim)

Because we are always in a state of need for all these seven aspects of hidayah (guidance), that is why this recitation from Al-Fatihah makes it the most beneficial and comprehensive du’aa - and the only compulsory supplication that a Muslim must make every day, as the mandatory rukun (pillar) in our 5-daily prayers.

So let’s make it a point to remember: Every time we recite ٱهْدِنَا ٱلصِّرَٰطَ ٱلْمُسْتَقِيمَ in our prayers, try to plant in our hearts that we are asking for these seven things all at once - Islam, Knowledge, Ability, Motivation, Sincerity, Correctness, and Steadfastness.

May Allah guide us all to the Straight Path 

Friday, April 19, 2024

Professionalism: Matt Damon's mindset and attitude when working in “bad movies” or roles that might suck

 


Oscar Nominee Matt Damon has starred in lots of excellent movie projects - Good Will Hunting, Saving Private Ryan, the Bourne franchise, the Martian, to name a few. 


He’s also starred in some pretty bad ones. 


What’s interesting is to learn his perspective about how he thought about starring in movies that he knows are going to be terrible. He once described a time he “fell into a depression” while filming a particularly regrettable movie project.


“Without naming any particular movies... sometimes you find yourself in a movie that you know, perhaps, might not be what you had hoped it would be, and you’re still making it,” he said.


“And I remember halfway through production and you’ve still got months to go, you’ve taken your family somewhere, you know, and you’ve inconvenienced them, and I remember falling into a depression and questioned: What have I done?” 


My wife pulled me up, she just said, ‘We’re here now’,” 


It was then, it reminded him: 


“You know, I do pride myself, in a large part because of her, at being a professional actor. 


And what being a professional actor means is you go and you do the 15-hour day and give it absolutely everything: even in what you know is going to be a losing effort.


“And if you can do that with the best possible attitude, then you’re a pro, and she really helped me with that.”


This is what professionalism looks like.


Sir Christopher Lee, the actor who played Count Dooku in Star Wars prequel trilogy, and Saruman in the Lord of the Rings franchise, once said, 


“Every actor has to make terrible films from time to time, but the trick is never to be terrible in them”


Like Matt Damon, we, too, might get bad “jobs”. The key: Never turn in a bad performance, working on them.


Ever got assigned roles which seem unremarkable or unappreciated? Maybe it’s writing the MOM, organizing the department team building, tedious contracting work, emceeing for yet another staff engagement session, or part of a “boring” task force.


Or sometimes your company or boss might assign you with cookie-cutter tasks or roles which aren’t particularly “sexy” or “glamorous”. They don’t necessarily rake in the profits, boost production, or seem worthy to appear on newsletters or intranet portals. 


Perhaps they’re the kind of assignments that make people go “meh” and question “so what?” Or tasks which you don’t like, disagree with, feel that it’s a “waste of time”, or perhaps, you’re just not excited or passionate about that work anymore. It just feels like spinning the wheels. The same mundane thing. SSDD - same stuff, different day.


Our tendency is, we become jaded, excessively cynical and just phone it in with minimal effort, just to tick off the box and get it over and done with. It becomes a venting topic at the water cooler, and we might even go on social media to whine about it and vent out our frustrations. 


Hallmarks of poor professionalism. 


In the words of Matt Damon’s wife: “you’re here now”. 


Put aside your ego and personal emotions, and instead, give it all you’ve got and commit to it with excellence & ihsan. Do it best, and move on. 


There’s a quote by Maya Angelou that says, 


“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did. But they will never forget how you made them feel”


Your attitude is a “live” CV, and firsthand demonstration of professionalism. People might not remember the magnitude or the contribution of the task. But people will remember the impression that your attitude left behind: How much integrity, workmanship, enthusiasm, and passion you put in, even though the task didn’t really seem all that fancy. 


Leaders with a keen eye can see that hidden potential: imagine if I actually gave this guy a flagship project. 


Team members who had the pleasure of working with you, would love to capture that same thunder again and would vouch for you, when the time comes: transfer proposals, vacancies, maybe even more? 


And that’s why, “bad movies” didn’t even cause a dent in Matt Damon’s career. He continues getting groundbreaking roles such as the 2024 Best Picture Oscar-winner Oppenheimer. 


Because he always gives it 100%, and gets back up like a boss.


And so should you.

Tuesday, April 09, 2024

🤝🏼 Kenapa para sahabat & salafus-soleh mengucapkan “تَقَبَّلَ اللهُ مِنَّا وَ مِنْكُمْ” sebagai ucapan Eid / Hari Raya? 🤝🏼

 



Jubayr ibn Nufayr meriwayatkan: “apabila sahabat2 Nabi ﷺ saling berjumpa padi Hari Raya (Eid), mereka berdoa sesama sendiri: “تَقَبَّلَ اللهُ مِنَّا وَ مِنْكُمْ” - semoga Allah menerima daripada kami dan juga daripada kamu

(Diriwayatkan dalam Al-Fath, 2/466 - Ibn Hajar berkata sanad ini hasan)

Mengapa para sahabat berdoa sedemikian? Apa significance doa ini, terutama sekali pada Hari Raya?

Di dalam surah Al-Mu’minun ayat 61, Allah menceritakan tentang sekumpulan orang soleh yang bersegera dan berlumba-lumba mengerjakan kebaikan:

أُولَٰئِكَ يُسَارِعُونَ فِي الْخَيْرَاتِ وَهُمْ لَهَا سَابِقُونَ

“Mereka itu bersegera untuk kebaikan dan merekalah yang segera memperolehnya”

Apakah ciri-ciri golongan ini? Apa yang mendorong mereka begitu tekun dan bersungguh-sungguh?

Pada ayat2 sebelumnya, menjelaskan golongan ini, Allah menggambarkan sifat mereka:

Hati mereka berasa karena takut akan (azab) Tuhan mereka, beriman dengan ayat-ayat Tuhan mereka, tidak berlaku syirik (mempersekutukan sesuatu dengan Allah).

Sehinggalah sampai ayat ke 60, Allah menggambarkan, 

وَالَّذِينَ يُؤْتُونَ مَا آتَوْا وَقُلُوبُهُمْ وَجِلَةٌ أَنَّهُمْ إِلَىٰ رَبِّهِمْ رَاجِعُونَ

“membelanjakan apa yang telah mereka berikan dengan hati yang takut, (mengetahui) sesungguhnya mereka akan kembali kepada Tuhan mereka.” (23:57-61)

Mendengar ayat-ayat ini, A’isya bertanya kepada Rasulullah ﷺ tentang ungkapan ringkas ini: وَقُلُوبُهُمْ وَجِلَةٌ, “hati mereka takut”. A’isya hairan:

“Mengapa mereka takut? Adakah mereka berdosa seperti minum arak, berzina atau mencuri dan takut akan diazab?”

Rasulullah menjawab, “Tidak, wahai anak As-Siddiq! Bahkan, sebaliknya, mereka inilah orang yang (mengerjakan amal soleh, seperti) puasa, menunaikan solat, dan bersedekah.

Mereka lakukan semua ini, sedangkan mereka berasa takut: yang amalan-amalan mereka tidak akan diterima oleh Allah: merekalah yang bersegera dalam kebaikan”

(HR At-Tirmidzi, Ibnu Majah)

Perhatikan: Mereka bukan takut sebab dosa mereka. Bahkan, mereka beramal soleh.. Cuma, mereka takut amalan mereka tidak diterima.

Okei.. so, apa di sebalik mindset & pemikiran mereka ni?

Bayangkan, kalau syarikat kita, boss kita, dah declare awal tahun, pada bulan April: “Ok, tahun ni prestasi kau dah confirm cemerlang.” Kalau guru atau lecturer kita, awal2 sem sebelum peperiksaan dah declare kita dapat gred A+..

Bagaimana agaknya sikap kita?

Holiday la. Tak payah la usaha! Result dah setel, bah!

Naluri manusia ni, kalau kita tahu semua amalan kita diterima kita akan MALAS.

Sebaliknya, tatkala kita tak pasti dah confirm atau tidak, kita akan usaha lebih sikit. Mana la tahu, tak cukup, kualiti kurang bagus.. kena topup lebih. Kasi ngam.

Mereka sentiasa ada perasaan takut yang PRODUKTIF: Sebab mereka takut mamalan mereka tidak diterima, mereka lagi berssungguh-sungguh. Jadi, tatkala habis Ramadan, mereka bukan tinggal semua. Mereka tetap akan follow up dan istiqamah, sebab tak pasti: terima ke tidak amalan aku ni?

Inilah mindset orang-orang soleh terdahulu: Sifat tawadhu & merendah diri.

Pada satu sudut, mereka berbaik sangka dengan Allah: mengetahui Allah Maha Kaya, Maha Dermawan, Maha Penyayang, Maha Pemberi.

Manakala pada sudut yang lain pula, mereka berburuk sangka dengan diri sendiri. Mereka tidak sangkakan amalan mereka hebat. Sebaliknya, mereka rasa diri mereka banyak kekurangan - mungkin ada kecacatan pada niat, keikhlasan, atau tatacara amalan soleh mereka. 

Atas dasar itulah, seorang sahabat Nabi ﷺ, Abu Darda (radhiAllahu anhu) pernah berkata,

“Andailah aku tahu Allah menerima SATU solat yang aku kerjakan, maka itu lebih baik untukku daripada kesluruhan hidupku dan segala apa yang ada di dalamnya! Ini adalah kerana Allah berfirman:

  إِنَّمَا يَتَقَبَّلُ ٱللَّهُ مِنَ ٱلْمُتَّقِينَ
“Sesungguhnya, Allah hanya menerima daripada orang-orang yang bertaqwa” (Surah Al-Maidah 5:27)

Dan, apakah matlamat di sebalik ibadah puasa, dan Ramadan secara keseluruhannya? 

Tidak lain, tidak bukan, untuk membina TAQWA.


Perhatikan: Abu Darda sendiri tidak yakin yang dia adalah seorang yang bertakwa, apatah lagi sama ada segala amalan-amalannya diterima atau tidak.

Diriwayatkan juga ada sebahagian salaf mengatakan: Andai aku tahu Allah terima satu SUJUD daripadaku, nescaya aku akan mohon untuk dimatikan segera.

Kerana mereka tahu, Allah Maha Pengampun, Maha Mengurniakan - dan pada masa yang sama, mereka khuatir kelemahan diri mereka sendiri.

Kita perhatikan pula contoh taqwa yang lagi hebat: KhaleelUllah, Nabi Ibrahim (alayhissalam).

وَإِذْ يَرْفَعُ إِبْرَٰهِـۧمُ ٱلْقَوَاعِدَ مِنَ ٱلْبَيْتِ وَإِسْمَـٰعِيلُ رَبَّنَا تَقَبَّلْ مِنَّآ ۖ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ ٱلسَّمِيعُ ٱلْعَلِيمُ ١٢٧
Dan, tatkala Ibrahim membangunkan asas bangunan Baitullah (Ka’bah) bersama (anaknya, Nabi) Ismail, (Mereka berdoa):

"Wahai Tuhan kami, terimalah (amal) dari kami. Sungguh, Engkaulah Yang Maha Mendengar, Maha Mengetahui".

(Surah Al-Baqarah, 127)

Inilah manusia yang paling dicintai oleh Allah, sedang membangun masjid. Bukan sebarang masjid. Andailah kita dapat peluang menyumbang pembinaan masjid, nescaya kita akan rasai itu satu pelaburan yang besar. Tapi yang ibrahim dan ismail bina ini bukan sebarang masjid. Bukan calang-calang. Mereka membina Ka’bah: Masjidil Haram. Masjid yang diziarahi oleh berjuta-juta umat Islam setiap tahun, sehingga hari ini. Mereka bina, di tengah-tengah padang pasir tanpa pembangunan sekeliling.

Amalan yang mereka lakukan ini cukup HEBAT.

Kalaulah ada amalan yang kita boleh kata, “confirm Allah terima”, maka inilah dia.

TAPI.. mereka tetap memohon Allah, berdoa: رَبَّنَا تَقَبَّلْ مِنَّآ - Wahai Tuhan kami, TERIMALAH daripada kami.

SubhanAllah.

Kalau amalan hebat, daripada manusia2 hebat seperti Nabi Ibrahim dan Nabi Ismail, mereka tidak pernah over-confident yang amalan mereka dah diterima, maka apatah lagi saya dan anda? Kita yang iman cukup lemah ni, amal soleh berapa kerat je, dengan usaha kerdil ni.

Sebab itu lah, para sahabat mendoakan doa ini setelah selesai Ramadan:

Pada satu sudut, mereka mengucapkan tahniah. Setelah berakhirnya musim ibadah yang terbesar dalam setahun, setelah meletakkan usaha yang gigih, dan bersangka baik dengan sahabat lain, pasti kamu ada yang berusaha dengan lebih baik.

Juga penuh dengan perasaan tawadhu - “aku tak tahu kalau Allah terima amalan aku atau tidak”.

Bagi mereka - seperti diri saya - yang merasa usaha sangatlah lemah, maka kita berharap, yang Allah terima serba sedikit, usaha yang tidak seberapa ini, dan kurniakan keberkatan ke atasnya.

Kerana pada masa yang sama, yang lebih utama, doa ini menggambarkan mereka bersangka baik - husnu dzon - dengan ALLAH, yang akan mengurniakan sebaik-baik balasan, di dunia dan akhirat.

Hebat, doa ni, kawan2. Jom kita biasakan diri kita menyebut-nyebut doa ini kepada ahli keluarga dan sahabat2 kita. Mungkin awal2 kita akan rasa janggal sikit, sebab tak biasa sebut. Tapi kalau kita practice sikit demi sedikit, insha Allah jadi mudah.

Alhamdulillah, selesai sudah Ramadan tahun ini. Dengan itu, saya doakan, untuk diri saya, keluarga saya, dan anda semua:

تَقَبَّلَ اللهُ مِنَّا وَ مِنْكُمْ

“Semoga Allah menerima daripada kami, dan juga daripadamu”   

-Faisal أبو معاوية sekeluarga

Monday, April 08, 2024

How Allah Grooms Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to be the Greatest Leader of all time: Reflections from Surah Ad-Duha

 




During yesterday’s live discussion on The Barakah Effect we had a really insightful deep-dive on the topic, “Your Lord Has Not Forsaken You: Inspirations from Surah Ad-Duha”


On of the amazing takeaways of of Surah Ad-Duha is that it teaches us how Allah prepares the life of Muhammad ﷺ, and Sets him up - both internally and externally - to be the greatest leader of all time. 


Here are some of those aspects:


1. Self-Confidence & Assurance - Comforting words

2. Optimism - Better days ahead

3. Gratitude & Humility

4. Empathy & kindness

5. You, too, can achieve Success





Let’s break it down:


1. Self-Confidence & Assurance


In ayah #3, Allah says: 


مَا وَدَّعَكَ رَبُّكَ وَمَا قَلَىٰ ٣

“Your Lord (O Muhammad ﷺ) has neither forsaken you, nor does he Hate you.”


This surah was revealed at a time when revelation has briefly stopped. Angel Jibril had not come to the Prophet for a certain duration, and the people of Quraysh were attacking him with sarcastic gaslighting remarks, telling him, “I hope your devil has abandoned you” - supposedly masking her cynicism with “good intentions” of “hope”. As a human being with emotions, words like these hurt the feelings of the Prophet ﷺ. 


In life, you will undoubtedly face difficult times where feel incredibly lonely, facing self-doubt, begin questioning yourself, in times where seemingly nobody understands what you’re going through. As the final Prophet and Messenger, no one truly knows how it feels like to bear the burden of this responsibility, nor the hurtful words and difficult situations he has to go through. 


With this ayah, Allah reaffirms the heart of the Prophet - that his Lord hasn’t forsaken him, and certainly doesn’t hate him. 


Generally speaking, as we recite these verses, they are also a reassurance for the believers: Stick to your principles, even if - or rather, ESPECIALLY when - things get tough. 


If you are living by your principles as a believer, fulfilling your purpose in life by obeying the commandments of Allah, then know, that despite what might be apparent on the surface - the loneliness, the haters, and the self-doubt - continue to do the right thing, and stick to your values. 

Rest assured: your Lord will not forsake you, nor does He Hate you. 


In other words:


وَلَا تَهِنُوا۟ وَلَا تَحْزَنُوا۟ وَأَنتُمُ ٱلْأَعْلَوْنَ إِن كُنتُم مُّؤْمِنِينَ ١٣٩

“So do not become weak, nor be sad, and you will be superior if you are indeed (true) believers.” (3:139)


2. Optimism: Better days ahead


in Ayah #4, Allah says: 


وَلَلْـَٔاخِرَةُ خَيْرٌۭ لَّكَ مِنَ ٱلْأُولَىٰ ٤

There are two ways we can translate and understand these ayah. Firstly, if we understand it literally, from a worldly perspective, it means “what comes later (in life), will be better than what comes before it (whether the present, or in the past).”

Secondly, it means “The Hereafter is better than the present life (in dunya)”. 


Both meanings are correct, and they ultimately culminate in one meaning to instil optimism in the Prophet ﷺ, and ultimately for us: Your best days are yet to come. 


It’s an affirmation of the Growth Mindset: Whatever challenges you go through today, is to prepare you, to shape you, to nurture you to becoming a stronger, more resilient person. Whatever difficulties you face today that are outside of your comfort zone, be patient: this too shall pass. And it’s only a matter of time until you adapt, you get better, and if you face this situation again in the future, it’s easy for you.


From the other perspective, this ayah talks about a very important life Principle, as Steven Covey labels as #2 out of the famous 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People: Begin with the End in Mind. 


Ultimately, even if things don’t necessarily improve, in the grand scheme of things, the life in this world is only a temporary existence. The true reward - the true success, true eternal happiness and settling down - lies beyond this life: in the Hereafter. 


And as long as you keep on this Straight Path, none of your efforts will go to waste. As He says in the following ayah,


وَلَسَوْفَ يُعْطِيكَ رَبُّكَ فَتَرْضَىٰٓ ٥

“And your Lord is going to give you, and you will be satisfied.”


3. Gratitude & Humility


Allah then continues in ayah #6 - #8: 

أَلَمْ يَجِدْكَ يَتِيمًۭا فَـَٔاوَىٰ ٦ وَوَجَدَكَ ضَآلًّۭا فَهَدَىٰ ٧وَوَجَدَكَ عَآئِلًۭا فَأَغْنَىٰ ٨


“Did He not find you (O Muhammad ﷺ) an orphan and gave you a refuge?

And He found you lost and provided Guidance?

And He found you poor and made you rich (self-sufficient with self-contentment)?”


Here Allah reminds the Prophet of the favors He granted him - from his weak state of being an orphan, living without guidance, and living in poverty - and how Allah elevated him from all these adversities. 


It’s also worth noting, a little factual detail in sirah. On one hand, Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was born of the noble family of Banu Hashim - being raised in an environment of leadership and nobility. Yet Banu Hashim wasn't wealthy, and was in difficult economic circumstances.: as a result, the Prophet ﷺ always had to pour in extra effort, even to help out the housechores of the family of his uncle and guardian, Abu Talib. So, he was conditioned to leadership and taking responsibility through those hard times.


And reciting this ayah, we can reflect this for ourselves, too:


Wasn’t there a time when we, too were weak and helpless? And how people around us had taken care of us, sheltered us, provided us guidance - Our parents, our teachers, our friends, our mentors? 


Wasn’t there a time when we knew nothing? Yet Allah had placed in our midst, guardians, teachers, friends, who paved the way for knowledge, showed us the path, enlightened us, elevated us from the life of ignorance?


For many of us, trying to lead righteous lives - wasn’t there a time when we lived a path of sins and disobedience? Didn’t we, too, have a past that we are ashamed of? How did Allah help us and bring us from that darkness into Light?


For many of us who are earning sustenance for ourselves and raising our family - wasn’t there a time when we were struggling to finish our studies, find a job, and struggle to earn a good livelihood? Haven't we all been struck and touched by those miracle moments? 


Here, Allah teaches His Prophet - and by extension, you and me - a lesson in Gratitude and Humility, to be a better person, a better leader, for the people around us. 


He reminds us,


وَأَحْسِن كَمَآ أَحْسَنَ ٱللَّهُ إِلَيْكَ 

“And do good (to others), just as how Allāh has done good to you.” (28:77)


Just as He was Generous and Kind with you, shouldn’t you, too, spread kindness and generosity with others? Shouldn’t you, too, play a role to help & elevate others, as others played a role in your life?


He also reminds us: None of this is done out of your own efforts. ALL of this was granted to you by Allah - even if you didn’t ask for it. There are many who don’t have half of the blessings that you have. And just has He granted it, He can also take it away. So don’t get arrogant, and never forget to attribute those Blessings to the One who granted it to you. 


Yes, Allah had elevated your situation and circumstance, but remember, there are many others who are still living in that state - perhaps even worse. Remember your humble origins.


And this ayah also reinforce the message of Optimism: If you're going through hard times, remember, there was a time when Allah elevated you in the past. And if He could do that back then, He could do it again in the future. Hang in there, buddy!


4. Empathy and Kindness


فَأَمَّا ٱلْيَتِيمَ فَلَا تَقْهَرْ ٩ وَأَمَّا ٱلسَّآئِلَ فَلَا تَنْهَرْ ١٠

“And as for the orphan, do not oppress. And for the beggar, do not repulse him.”


The Prophet ﷺ was raised in an environment of hardship: having lived, firsthand, his entire life as an orphan who couldn’t read or write. And until he was married to Khadijah, he was always living a life of difficulty and poverty. 


Knowing what it’s like to live in tough times, his upbringing conditioned him to have empathy for the underprivileged in society. Treat them with kindness. 


Sure, we might not necessarily have lived through the hardship that others, as the Prophet ﷺ himself went through. At least, acknowledge that we are ignorant and lack knowledge of their suffering, and have the humility to learn and empathize - to listen to them, put ourselves in their shoes.


By instilling these values to treat the “lower class” of society, by extension, Allah also trains us to have kindness and gentleness to the rest of society. 


In a materialistic community, people tend to be “nice” only to the upper class, yet they are mean and nasty to the weak of society such as the poor and the orphans. On a superficial level, it can difficult to be kind and gentle to people who seemingly can’t offer you anything “in return”, and therefore it can annoy people and make them uncomfortable confronting these underprivileged “nobodys”. 


Allah therefore Reminds us: Don’t stoop to that level. Be better than that. You’re not doing this for them: You’re doing this for Allah!


If you don’t want to give, you don’t have to be nasty while doing it. If you don’t want to give extra, then at least fulfill their rights. 


If you can condition yourself to practice kindness, gentleness and generosity, to the weak of society, then it’s a whole lot easier to be kind and gentle to others. 


 


5. You, too, can achieve Success


Ultimately, these verses remind us that the life of the Prophet should also instil hope that ANY of us can be successful in life. He was an orphan, poor, and illiterate. In those days, any one of these three elements would have been a major handicap against success. Yet, by the Mercy of Allah, He elevated the Prophet to becoming the greatest leader in the history of mankind. 


Even if we lack knowledge, are poor, or are underprivileged society, we have what it takes to achieve extraordinary success - if we put in the effort!

Wednesday, April 03, 2024

“Let’s Be the Change!” - Alumni sharing, Dynamic Leadership (DL) Cohort #18 kickoff, April 2024

Recently, I volunteered to give conduct a short sharing to the new participants under Dynamic Leadership (DL) - back in my day, it was called Managerial Excellence (ME). This course was designed for newly appointed managers over a course of 4-months, with a mix of in-person classroom sessions, virtual classroom, and assignments. To get participants fired up, during the virtual kickoff, organizers at PLC place a slot for DL alumni - past participants who’ve attended previous sessions - to address these new leaders & set the learning into context in relation to the organization’s aspirations. 


It was an excellent program, and so the moment I graduated from my ME course last November 2023, I immediately reached out to the PLC team - guys, let me be your alumni!


I’ve always wanted this opportunity to reach out to my fellow managers, to share some honest insights and hopefully inspire them throughout this journey.


Some key messages I shared: 


1. Congratulations! The organization has seen some qualities in you to deem you worthy to entrust you with handling and the most important resource of the organization: Our people. So let’s make it count


2. My own struggles as a new manager - the message I wanted to send to them was, it isn’t easy! I faced immense struggles right off the gate, and the challenges keep coming. Being overwhelmed, confronting impostor syndrome, questioning yourself if you’re doing the right thing, facing ruthless criticism, feeling hopelessly at a dead end.. if you’ve ever felt this way, I’ve got news: This is normal. 

    

Yes, it’s tough. 

    

But as a Leader once shared with us, “I have good news and I have bad news”. 

The bad news: It’s going to get TOUGHER. The good news is: You’re going to get BETTER. 

The key to thrive as a leader, isn’t to fret and lose hope, but rather, to embrace the future possibility that we will grow to adapt, and expand our abilities to handle greater challenges! 

    

3. Let’s BE the change: 


Let’s be honest. Chances are, some of us might have had (or are currently having) leaders who aren’t quite “model examples”. Maybe our leaders are poor listeners, don’t practice psychological safety, are terrible at giving, seeking or receiving feedback, lack the courage to act, just don’t care about our development, or bootlickers who “kiss up, kick down”.

    

Now, we can either look at this situation like whining cynical netizens, or we can step up to break the cycle, to do things differently. 

     

As our leader shared a recent townhall event: Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. 

    

The company didn’t appoint us as leaders to perpetuate the problem. They appointed us to be part of the solution. 

    

Now that we are leaders, this is our chance to make a difference in our capacity. 

    

So, let’s step up, and BE that change: together.

We got this, guys!

Friday, March 08, 2024

QTG Leaders Conversation: “Courage to Lead” - 5th March 2024, SKA Auditorium

 



For our recent department Staff Engagement Session (SES) Leaders engagement, I decided to try out something new: Instead of just having an open mic session squaring off between the leaders and audience, let’s put more structure to it. Have Leadership conversations that are more relatable, more engaging and inspiring to the grassroots and team on the ground - set the tone, and have open mic Q&As in between.

The Conversation was split into two parts:

Panel #1: A conversation with new leaders - Hear some behind-the-scenes thoughts from our newly appointed managers. What are the struggles they went through (and still going through!), how they adapted from the drastic change from their previous roles, how these roles pushed them beyond their comfort zone, the culture shock they had to confront, and what are they aspire to do differently now that they are in the driver’s seat.

Panel #2: we bring our senior leaders and Head department to shed light and thoughts on the previous conversation on developing leaders; where we also relay the “tough” questions submitted online and through our cultural survey.

My role as the moderator is to shine the spotlight on our leaders, especially the young managers: Let’s break down barriers between “bosses and the rakyat” - use this platform to allow our colleagues to hear this side of the story, get to know our leaders on a more personal, human level. My hopes is that we can bring the team one step closer to build bridges, form connections and close gaps between our colleagues and our LT, and inspires trust and loyalty in the team while at the same time, trigger some takeaway, actionable points that they can develop in themselves and instil leadership in whatever role they are playing.

After all, as Simon (Sinek) says, “Leadership is not a rank or a position. It is a CHOICE: A choice to look after the person to the left of us & the person to the right of us”.




Highlights & Takeaway points:

✅ Always find good mentors and teachers. Mentors don’t necessarily have to be more senior - they might even be your own subordinates. Use this learning curve as an opportunity to build bridges, instil trust and respect amongst one another

✅ Never be ashamed to Ask for help - reach out to others, always find a way to improve. If you reach a dead end (no precedence, no “experts”), just create avenues to learn: Create your own study circles, form your own Community of Practice.

✅ Journalling - write down the things that you’ve learnt. Even the soft skills. On top of your technical skills, put more mindfulness on leadership aspects of your professional growth: Communication, listening, strategy, stakeholder interaction, difficult conversations. Learn and write the things you “should” do, and also, write down what you should NOT do. As you learn and grow, learn to be better at filtering knowledge: Ambil yang jernih, buang yang keruh (take the good, filter out the bad)

✅ Stay away from toxic influences who will demoralize you and make you “lose hope” of progress. Life’s too short to be surrounded by these energy drainers. Find positive role models who can inspire you to keep progressing forward

✅ The key to effective communication is SINCERITY.

✅ If you feel like you’ve reached a “dead end” in your career, doing the same thing again and again, realign your intentions of working, re-discover that passion from within. Perhaps this might be a triggering point for you to challenge yourself to do something different: reignite that spark!

✅ Leaders, just like all human beings, are a “work in progress”. We are never a “finished product”. We make mistakes, we try to learn from them and improve - and, we will make mistakes again!

✅ No matter how great they are, leaders are human, too. We have flaws, emotions and weaknesses. If we find gaps and flaws to be improved, let’s work together, help and collaborate to bring improvement. Sama sama!

✅ When the organization undergoes re-organization, especially when it seemingly “reverts back to its former structure”, look at it hollisticallly: the organization is growing and learning, too. Don’t be quick to judge that the leaders are “flip flopping” or just to satisfy "an agenda".

✅ Some may feel that people don’t listen to our feedback, but that’s our personal perception. The reality is, feedback is being processed and listened to, and while we improve certain aspects, other aspects might not be seen. Sometimes your feedback may contradict feedback given by others. Sometimes some aspects require a major change. Change takes time.

✅ When we try to improve and bring a solution to the team, sometimes that opens up door for new, unexpected challenges (i.e. from “insufficient people” to “overwhelmingly huge team”) - we must learn to be agile, resilient and adaptable

✅ Leaders are willing to listen - but are YOU willing to talk and open up?